| Tillie | Posted: 14 June 2018 - 04:29 PM |
Welcome to the NEW and hopefully improved message board page. 🙂 | |
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| Subclinical | Posted: 30 November 2018 - 04:36 AM |
Tillie, youare still grieving. Take your time. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 30 November 2018 - 04:35 AM |
Motown, I have a microwave, and a coffee maker, and a hand mixer. But I also have an oven and a funnel and a spoon. So if Justin Case turns up, I am ready for him. I also have a big shelf filled with dolls. I gave regretted getting rid of some things, mostly because (like Tatoulia) I was the person people could always ask for stuff and I felt so good about it. There were some times when I first started that one of my kids would ask me "hey mom, do you have..." And my heart would drop because I would have to say "I got rid of it." I got rid of something my kids needed! But the kids were like "ok, no big deal." And then they startled noticing a difference in the house, and they are so proud of me! Some things I personally regretted, but they were usually easily replaced. And the slight added cost was worth the space to work in the mean time. Even if they couldn't be replaced - I have lost far more things to damage from having too much than to mistaken decisions. Also, what Tillie said about me being able to find things is true. And if you can't find it - you basically don't have it. The reduction in stress and wasted time has been a big change in my life. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 29 November 2018 - 11:11 PM |
I keep looking at the kitty dishes here. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 29 November 2018 - 10:55 PM |
WOW! OK Expanding foam is a great gap filler but it is chewable. My Grandfather used to cover mouse holes with unchewable tin. Anyway, what I suggest is that you fill the gap with expanding foam but also top it off with something less chewable like metal. When Scooter was a baby he removed the steel wool to allow the mouse to come in and play. The rat under the house was gnawing the wood to enter through the floor in the hallway. Rodents supposedly do not like the smell of peppermint and some people have had good results using cotton balls with peppermint essential oil on them. Mice supposedly hate the smell of moth balls but they will just roll the moth balls out of their way and enter any way. Anyways Tatoulia | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 29 November 2018 - 10:21 PM |
Busy day and busy night. I got 4.6 miles of walking in. Pretty nice. And after my seminar today (attended, not presented), I came home, did three loads of laundry including my new sheet set, changed my sheets, chose a pair of sheets to donate, baked a cake. I'm tired but just read the posts. Thank you for the suggestion to help soften the butter! I looked at the kitchenaide mixers at Macy's tonight and I definitely do not want a stand mixer. I would like the handheld one but I came home, took a good long look at the one I have, and am satisfied with it. The label has fallen off so who knows what the brand is. But if we're talking 30 years old, I'm good with it. Right now I'm just practicing my frosting skills and there's no reason to move beyond that. I'll try frosting my cake tmr. A woman I know through Twitter is helping me with the frosting. She's in England and an accomplished baker. I take pictures and she helps me troubleshoot. It's all the funnier since I tweet as a cat and she just goes along with my lamentations of not having thumbs. Motown no one is criticizing you. We are very supportive here and very fond of each other. I just want to echo a few things the others have said. I can't remember who said what. I have a plastic Melita coffee funnel that I keep in my cabinet and I've used it probably on three different occasions in the past 35 years. It has saved me each time my coffee maker has died. I happened to look at it the other day, trying to decide what to do with it, and I thought, it takes up no room and can be a lifesaver. I just fold my basket style filter and I'm all set. I also only buy Mr Coffee coffee makers. I have had exactly three since I've been an adult. I have used each one til it died. The one my parents bought for me when I was 23 lasted for years and years and years. I spent s lifetime trying to be the person who had exactly what everyone needed and wanted to always save the day by having just what people needed. I bought multiples of everything. I had whatever people needed. Source of pride. Then source of shame. I was here, on this site, when I realized that STORES have things people need. They STORE things. I don't need to do it. That said, I keep a lot of TP and paper towels around, because I use a lot. I also know that I am incredibly fortunate to live in a city (debatable for sure) in that whatever I need is at my fingertips. And like it or not, the Amazon-ation of America gives us access to items at all times of day and night. I say this as you start your journey so you can maybe look at things a bit differently. A small shift in your worry will go a long way. It's obviously a different situation for you since your house is jam-packed with people consuming food stuffs. But I'll ask you to rethink how many backup items you need of appliances. Maybe you don't need any. Maybe you just need a jar of instant coffee to take care of you for the two or three days til you can purchase a new one. I've been there and I fight the urges constantly. I now choose between, say, the orange or the pink shampoo or the green fuzzy mittens and the white wool ones. I make myself choose. It's hard but I've learned to do so. I now only keep two sets of sheets for my bed plus one flat sheet for kitty (couch cover in summer). That's it. If I buy new towels I donate the old ones. The concept that I'll be washing my car is ludicrous. It's tough and painful and I'm happier. Before I read the posts tonight I had gone through the kitty's dishes and I've chosen six plates (they are a delightful set of cheese plates) to donate. She has so many dear little dishes. Hey I've been worried I may be getting a mouse and tonight kitty had an incident by a wobbly area in the corner. Good kitty. Now I can no longer ignore the need to close that up. Not sure how to do it although Tillie at one point you gave me some tips for using expanding foam. For tonight I'll just put a heavy book there. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 29 November 2018 - 08:33 PM |
If I kept butter on the counter rather than in the fridge Had a nice day. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 29 November 2018 - 08:23 PM |
Hello I read your post earlier today Motown and it has weighed heavily on my mind all day. None of us here are minimalists having only a few items in our homes. We have learned here that having fewer things in our homes gives us more time. Together here we have learned that less truly is more. We aren't into fast decluttering since we are all doing this home reclaiming all by our selves. We are working through all our fears of "what if". | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 29 November 2018 - 06:41 PM |
Motown, how many coffee makers do you have? I think maybe we should inspire you to stop buying things first. Do you have a funnel? If your coffee maker breaks, you can put some coffee in a filter in a funnel and boil water and pour the water through the funnel full of coffee into your cup. | |
| Motown | Posted: 29 November 2018 - 12:04 PM |
Oh my goodness, Tatoulia, no microwave? I cannot imagine. Mine went out a couple years ago and we drove 25 minutes to purchase one that very evening because that is a necessity. And I haven't ever been without a hand mixer either. Guess that's why I cannot downsize. I NEED all the convenience because I don't have TIME to do everything the hard way. I also have backup everythings and most things have a backup for the backup, you know, just in case.... | |
| Tillie | Posted: 29 November 2018 - 10:43 AM |
Good Morning Everybody Hi Subclinical Woke up to the sound of rain, was raining good and solid for quite a while. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 29 November 2018 - 07:38 AM |
My ddil put "a good wooden spoon" on her Christmas wish list. 🙂 I put my cinnamon into one of the new spice containers (I buy it in a plastic bag - I hate the plastic bag, but it is much cheaper.) I am taking one of my older but still good work shirts to work today to give away - it is one I got because I needed it but never liked. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 29 November 2018 - 01:18 AM |
Hello Hi Subclinical Hi Tatoulia To soften butter... Made biscuits from a refrigerator can, Pillsbury or something. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 28 November 2018 - 09:29 PM |
I think you made the right choice on the shirts, SubC And you are very good about not over buying your work clothes and if you find colors you like, then you can put one away for next year in case there are slim pickings then. It throw caution the wind and enjoy all three. Oof. I know the feeling of buying something and regretting it. Good call on just te-donating the doll. I could fill the whole house with buyer's remorse and have done so. Right now with my baking I would really love a better grade of electric mixer. In truth, I want the kitchenaide smaller stand up. And of course they are on sale. But I digress. I would be very happy with one of the kitchenaide handheld mixers. What I have is old and very cheap but boy they do not make em like they used to. It is willing to soldier on and mix to its heart's content but it is weak. It has two beaters and they feel weak and have always felt weak. I remember buying them when I was still a student and I remember when I looked at them I thought they looked puny. And my friend said, what do you want, dough hooks? And it cracked me up for some reason and every time I use it I can hear her ask that. Anyway don't think they'll cream two sticks of butter without putting up a giant fuss. ESP since my house is so cold and drafty and it's hard to get the butter to soften. It ruins it if you heat it in the microwave and plus I threw out the microwave in June. So I'm toying with buying a nice kitchenaide handheld. Yes with dough hooks. Well I just veered off here. I need to go to bed. I have a seminar tmr and one of my coworkers is joining me and wants me to meet her ahead of time. Goodnight my lovelies. Let's do this again tmr!!! Ps AC is gone. City picked it up! | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 28 November 2018 - 07:01 PM |
Very big stuff say for me today. I once planned to buy two new work shirts every year. But then I discovered they didn't offer the same colors every year and some years they didn't have colors I like. So this year I liked the colors and I bought three. They came in today. My 12 silicone lids also arrived. So far I like them. And I went to the thrift store. I bought a badly worn doll that I thought was the same as a doll from my childhood, who has a broken leg, in the hope of doing a transplant, but the scale is off, so "new" doll goes back in one piece. It was a $3 gamble. I also bought a big glass bowl full of dried plant things. I want the bowl for a slump mold, and I thought I could use the things for wreath making. But I would have probably done better to skip the thrift shop and get home earlier. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 28 November 2018 - 10:33 AM |
The freezer sold!!???!!!???!! Well you could knock me over with a feather!!! Now I'll read the rest of the posts. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 28 November 2018 - 09:51 AM |
Good Morning Everybody Hi Subclinical I was sure tempted to see if that young man wanted to load anything else up on his large trailer for free. ;D Cold dark rainy day today. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 28 November 2018 - 04:34 AM |
Yes Tillie, I think so too. Although another part of it is laziness. He currently has the boy school days from after school Monday to after school Friday. He had a nice routine going where he dropped him off at before care to eat breakfast, picked him up from aftercare around 5, bought him fast food and then played video games or legos with him or let him play video games alone until he remembered he was supposed to put him to bed. The child now handles his own bathing needs, but when he was younger, there were many weeks when he was picked up from school on Friday and clearly had not had a bath since his mom took him to school Monday morning. I swam 2500m yesterday. I would have swum farther, but I was concerned about overtiring myself after such a long break. It helped with the anger. Hurray for your knight in shining armor! Did you ask if he wanted anything else while he was there? 😉 Motown, I am also hoping your kidney stone resolves quickly. I'm sorry I forgot to say it because I got focused on trying to help with your house. My name comes in part from being apparently on the edge of the autism spectrum - they don't diagnose adults, and wether or not I appear to fit often depends on the day, but my social skills are sometimes poor and it is not intentional. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 27 November 2018 - 09:32 PM |
Good Evening Everybody Hi Subclinical Hi Motown Subclinical is remodeling her home and going through "empty nest" with her kids now going off to their own homes. Your home is different as are all of our homes but this change you want and need falls on your efforts. It's not fair that it all rests on your shoulders but you can make a change for the better. So sorry about your kidney stone. OUCH! Are there any other charity thrift shops nearby that don't rely on just one lady to handle all the donations? Hi Tatoulia If the AC has not been picked up it's not your problem because you scheduled it to be. Been gently sprinkling all afternoon. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 27 November 2018 - 09:20 PM |
Motown you sound so cheerful despite your physical suffering. I hope you feel better soon. That is discouraging about the bags of clothes but please don't worry about them. You did the right thing to donate them. SubC I am so sorry about the situation with the schooling. So very upsetting. I'm glad you can reuse the clay! Tilie every so often I think about your secretary with the enclosed shelf. I believe you have some of your grandmother's things there. I am doing this. It is important to me to move forward. I forgot to check out back to determine if the AC was picked up. I'm tired. Will write more tmr. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 27 November 2018 - 06:52 PM |
Hi mowtown! I'm able to use the back button to check previous posts, then forward to mine. I am very very anti-trash. The first step for me was to stop things coming in. This reduces waste, saves money, and stops the level where it is. I know this is a challenge for you because you have many people bringing things in. Maybe just start by spending one day noticing how and where things come in. | |
| Motown | Posted: 27 November 2018 - 02:59 PM |
Goodness! Where to begin. Just finished reading and trying to catch up. Still not familiar enough with all of you to remember who is whom and who is doing what and such. and once I start a message I can't refer to the previous posts so I have to go off of a very poor memory. So this is what has been happening with me. I have a rather large (9mm) kidney stone that is too large to pass. Not my first rodeo with kidney stones but the first in several years. I have been having issues for over two weeks but by Saturday night I was past miserable and made two trips to the ER. So this Friday I will have a procedure (lithotripsy) to break it up into smaller pieces that will pass. Guess I better make this short. may try to check in with y'all again tomorrow if I can squeeze in the time. I have missed my new friends! Anyway, keep up the good work and maybe eventually some of it will rub off on me! LOL! Motown | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 27 November 2018 - 11:09 AM |
His dad simply took him to the elementary school this morning and enrolled him. He was 45 minutes late to meet me when d❤️D called them to find out. Dad never contacted either of us. Now she goes to court. And probably loses. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 27 November 2018 - 09:47 AM |
Good Morning Everyone Hi CriticalMass Hi Subclinical Hi Tatoulia Cold dark day with a chance of rain/snow. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 27 November 2018 - 04:32 AM |
Tatoulia - the place I teach offers classes a la cart, like a college. Legally we are not a school. All of our students are registered as homeschooled and their parents are responsible for their educations. Some of them just take one class - chemistry is popular because of the equipment. Others are there the whole time we are open (classes 9:30-4:30 Tuesday through Thursday, 9:30-3:30 Fridays, supervised free time in the gym every morning from 8-9:30) Mondays we are closed. So d❤️gs is now legally a homeschooler in his dad's state. He will work with his mom or a caregiver on Mondays and tu/Th afternoons, me on tu/Th mornings, and attend classes at our program all day wed and fri. The bad pizza stone isn't wasted. I didn't fire it, so the clay will get dried, crumbled, remixed with water, wedged (kneaded), and used again. You are doing a great job with your clearing out! (I had to look up "vitrine" - I bet that will be really pretty when you get it sorted out.) | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 26 November 2018 - 10:26 PM |
Glad to hear about the good news with your ❤️gs! Keep us posted! I'm not entirely sure of his situation other than he'll be going to your school. Is that correct? You also mentioned home schooling so I'm a bit confused. In any event I am so pleased that happier and safer days are ahead Very interesting to hear that you can make a pizza stone in addition to pots. You are amazing. I'm sorry you wasted the time and materials on that one stone. Right now I have an antique vitrine in my kitchen where I have all my little things. There are just too many. I also keep my three good vases in there. But there's so many little things in there. All cute and most with faces! But it's crammed and I'm unhappy. Tillie you are so clever. You immediately understand my problems and quandaries. I have now wrapped up two really cute owl napkin holders. I don't use napkin rings and I only bought them because they were owls. I'm getting rid of the non-sentimental. It'll be easier to just do it and then once it's done, it's done. I have not yet regretted getting rid of anything in the past five or so years. I seem to remember looking for something in the past year or so and finally decided I must've gotten rid of it. And today I can't remember what is was. And when I stopped looking and decided it was long gone, I was fine. So until I can't take it anymore, I'm doing this. I have a Christmas item I was thinking of getting rid of, then decided to keep, and now I know I can get rid of it. And that's fine with me. At first I feared I'd embarass the cleaning ladies by giving them things but they are hard-working and likely struggling. They are so cheerful and kind. I do not give them anything crummy and I don't really own casual clothes so I give them things for church or parties or weddings. The coat I gave them today doesn't have one stitch out of place and no signs of fraying or wear. If I wouldn't wear it, then I'm not going to give it to them. I'm picky about that. So my sweaters that get pulls and pills are washed and sent to goodwill. Same with my blouses. I wish I still had my tiny clothes but I gave them to a neighbor a few years back. She needed full-time work and so BF gave her PT work at his office and my company gave her the other hours. At my office I wanted her to dress better so I gave her my tiny clothes from a decade ago. They were expensive suits and she would wear the jackets over her other clothes and it elevated her look at the office. I still see her carrying a purse I gave her several years ago. I have a busy day tmr. And the next few days. On the other hand, I haven't worked since 2 PM on Wednesday. Nice little stretch of time off. Big rains here tonight. BF and employee took my AC out. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 26 November 2018 - 08:21 PM |
Faces make everything harder. Tatoulia, you do not gave to get rid of all of the non-sentimental stuff, and you do not have to do it all at once. But if you aren't using it, and don't Gabe room for it, it is better to keep the space for the things that do matter. I am sure your cleaners love working for you. I think most people don't shower them with presents every week! I know they are used presents, but as a kid who grew up in hand me downs, trust me, they are appreciated. Tillie, It snowed all day here, but only really stuck on the grass. I will need to be careful in the morning because it's going to drop to the teens. D❤️gs's dad came through and I am heading over in the morning! Very happy and relieved! I had a hard time getting out into the studio today. Puttered about too long in the house. I don't know why transitions are so hard for me. But once I got out working I made a horrible pizza stone that I am going to scrap, and a nice one for dd1 and two garlic bakers (one for me and one for dd1) and I finished two bowls. The first pizza stone came out so badly because I didn't have the right rib, and instead of looking for it, I tried to use a different rib, and I spent far too long trying to salvage the piece. But when I finally looked for the rib, I found it right away and it was clean! The studio did get kind of bad during the run up to the show, but I left it cleaner than I started today. (The first hour I was out there was mostly cleaning so I could work) | |
| Tillie | Posted: 26 November 2018 - 07:17 PM |
Hi Tatoulia Hope a good night's sleep will fix your wrenched body (((hug))) About the keepers... This is something to keep in mind as you sort through them. Display tchotchkes should be displayed whereas salt cellars, sugar bowls & creamers etc. need to be put away where they are easy to reach and use. Subclinical and I truly understand just how hard this is for you. Was a slow laid back day, did a few things, nothing much to talk about. LOL ;D | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 26 November 2018 - 03:51 PM |
Hello everyone! Yay for the nice clean quilt! We had a very cloudy, overcast day yet it never really rained. Mom and I did a Christmas tradition today. I was supposed to get my bloodwork done in advance of my dr's appt next week but luckily I called the hospital and the requisition had not been posted. That saved me a lot of time going to and from the hospital. I would have walked since it is dark here by 4 and driving in congested hospital traffic is too nerve-wracking. Although the walk would have been nice. I sort of wrenched myself taking mom out in her wheelchair today. This happens every year. Small price to pay to enjoy her company. Tillie, before even reading your post I had set out four glass items. Two are little glass bears that I used as salt and pepper shakers. I also have a big one, which I will keep. . (They have faces!). And I put out a bird paperweight and a bird salt cellar. I'll find the other two and say goodbye to them as well. So funny I had remembered the bird salt cellars as being snowmen. I think I'll wrap them carefully and put them in zip lock bags and let goodwill decide their fates. If I package them together maybe they have a fighting chance. I gave my cleaning lady a bag of belts today, a beautiful red winter coat and a bracelet. I then pulled a dress out of my closet that I know would be too large on me but I wasn't ready "just yet" and she instantly put it in and was so excited. I'm glad it turned out that I am ready. She was so happy. I pointed out that the coat wouldn't fit her (or her tiny co-fairy) but she said she would take it to the church if they don't have a friend to wear it. So that's good. I'm going to just put the glass non-sentimental things into the goodwill. Taking your sage advice, SubC and Tillie. This shouldn't be so hard but it is. I will feel better once it is done! I know since I dumped that chair I feel better. I'd lost the will to take it to the consignment shop. It was very cute, in remarkable condition and someone at goodwill will find it and be excited. The little stuff is equally of no moment. None. And if it's not sentimental and just contributing to my clutter, then I have to let it go. If I'm that bothered, then time to go!! Thank you! BF and an employee are coming over tonight to get my AC in the trash bin. I think I mentioned I called the city for a pick up. The cleaning ladies wanted it but it is no longer working and it leaks. I think for now I'll stick with big stuff for them like clothes or dishes. This little stuff is so babyish. If I part with any creamer and sugar sets, I will revisit. I love these ladies. They are so great. So kind. Oh and I love you too. HELLO CM AND MOTOWN AND ANONY!!! | |
| Tillie | Posted: 26 November 2018 - 10:36 AM |
Good Morning Everybody Hi Subclinical Hi Tatoulia If you feel sentimental about somethings, put them aside until later and we will discuss what to do after the non-sentimental stuff has been taken care of. Best to not break up sets even ones that are missing pieces. To help relieve the anxiety of this experience Set things out on a table or counter where you will see them all day. P.S. WTG! for making a lovely storage place for Winter things by the door! 😀 Looks like another nice cold day here. | |
| Subclnical | Posted: 26 November 2018 - 10:25 AM |
Well, hopefully the amazon thing will help. Ran out to get feed and pay my farm sitter. Her mom gave me 11 spice jars. I don't really need11, but I did need some - i'm going to wash them and set them aside for a cabinet organizing day. Yay for getting things out! | |