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What are you doing today?
Tillie
Posted: 17 August 2012 - 10:50 PM
 

Today my To-Do list included
water the garden and trees
clean the litter boxes
make a grocery list
clean kitchen
work on quilt

What is on your list? 😀

 

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Dianne
Posted: 10 October 2013 - 04:17 PM
 

Oh Tillie, the food you make sounds so delicious!!

No Roxie, no shower yet. There always seems to be more pressing things to do. Maybe tomorrow?

Today I have spent over 6 hours dealing with electrical issues and no computer. Finally got things back up but need to get an electrician out here soon.

 
Tillie
Posted: 10 October 2013 - 10:13 AM
 

Good morning 🙂
Today is clearer skies and warmer.
The sun never came out yesterday and we had an almost constant drizzle of rain.
Cats have been fed.
I am brewing my chai masala and reading the interwebs.
On the TV I'm watching the new episodes of Hoarding Buried Alive that have been added to Netflix.
Soon I will get dressed, scoop litter boxes, freshen cat water, make my bed, brush & braid my hair and wash my face & brush my teeth.
Just a little tidying up around here and then I can play.
Have to sweep the front porch. It is totally buried in fallen leaves. 🙂
Have a bunch of Granny Smith apples and am trying to decide if I will make pie, cobbler or my famous peanutbutter apple crisp. ;D

 
Tillie
Posted: 10 October 2013 - 10:02 AM
 

Hi Roxie 🙂

Sometimes I read pleas for help and I am at a total loss as to what to suggest.:(
Wish I always knew what to say to help people. 🙁
Then I hope that you or the other posters will respond to them with your own personal knowledge and experience.
So many of them are between a rock and a hard place with impossible restrictions on time, resources and people to assist them. 🙁

(((hugs)))

 
Roxie
Posted: 10 October 2013 - 09:47 AM
 

Good morning, all. Karl, good to hear you've done some work. Now please do another 15 minutes! Then a reward. Hugs.

Tillie, you are a faithful poster and I count on seeing you here. Are you feeling any better? If you can, there are a couple of posters in the Cleanup Help area that might benefit from your perspective, if you are up for it.

Dianne, always glad to see your warm posts to others. Your kind heart comes through. And I am glad to hear you are going to stick to the bed delivery date this time. Did you take your shower yet? 😀

Just woke up. Yesterday I went through a stack of mail and rounded up paper plates from outside (feral cat plates). I opened and checked on some shoes I ordered. Unfortunately they are loose, even though one pair is a half size smaller than I usually wear. Can feet shrink???

Trying to keep up with current events and politics is interesting, and intense learning event, and tiring. But at least I feel I am doing something. If they cut social security and medicare, I will become homeless in a few months. Egad. I don't dwell on it, just accept that that could happen. Lalala I 'll deal with it whenever.

 
Tillie
Posted: 10 October 2013 - 09:28 AM
 

WTG! Karl for doing something.
Nice that the shoes were where you expected them to be 😉

 
Karl
Posted: 10 October 2013 - 03:27 AM
 

I spent another 15m taking care of some miscellaneous stuff, including the last of the papers scattered on one area of the floor.

 
Tillie
Posted: 09 October 2013 - 10:47 AM
 

Good morning 🙂

Rainy overcast day.
No real plans. Maybe I will cook something.

Hi Dianne 🙂

Hi MayMay 🙂

Hi Karl 🙂
Tuesday chat is for hoarders & messies only so I don't qualify and Fridays I am busy preparing for the weekend and forget to watch the clock.

Hi Roxie 🙂
Happy you got that tooth taken care of.

A big WAY TO GO! for everybody getting even the smallest task accomplished! 😀

 
Roxie
Posted: 09 October 2013 - 06:58 AM
 

Well, shoot, I thought I posted yesterday. It's early morning and I loaded up the outdoor garbage bin and wheeled it down across the street. Guess that counts for Wednesday? Ah, I hear the garbage truck now.

Yesterday I got the usual done plus went to the dentist to get a tooth filled. When there I stopped at the adjacent doctor's office and left a message that I wanted to perhaps become a new patient (I don't know why they didn't just book me). I'd been putting that off.

Hoping you are all okay today.

 
Karl
Posted: 09 October 2013 - 01:51 AM
 

How come nobody shows up for the Tuesday or Friday chats anymore?

As I noted earlier, I was busy over the weekend. Monday I didn't get any cleaning done, though I don't really have an excuse for it. Today I'm going to make sure I get at least one session done before bed; I'll start now (and have ice cream waiting for when I'm done).

 
MayMay
Posted: 09 October 2013 - 12:14 AM
 

Hey Dianne,
I'm enjoying living with my boyfriend; and so is Matt, Cory, and Snuggles. They love having a backyard that they can run around and play in. The transition from living with my friends, to living with my boyfriend has been pretty easy; because even when I was still sharing an apartment with my friends, I would stay at my boyfriend's house a lot. 🙂

 
Dianne
Posted: 08 October 2013 - 10:07 AM
 

Tillie, glad you're feeling better today 🙂

MayMay, miss you posting. Tell us how it's been going moving in with your boyfriend, merging possessions, keeping things clean and organized.

Karl, if you have no health insurance, your state may offer prescription help. You can ask your pharmacist about where to get a card. A few years ago I did that thru the state of Maryland. Got my card at the local library. With the changes in Obamacare I don't know if that will work anymore.

At the least talk to your doctor about a change to a generic brand. If the meds are within the same group there should be minimal reactions making the switch.

It may not seem like it right now but you are fortunate to have a friend who is truthful with you. Many people would just say oh I can't have any roommate for such and such reasons. She told you something that may be worth thinking about. Maybe this is a turning point in your life where you need to say is she right? Should I go back home for a time to regroup, get my life going in a direction I want and what direction is that?

If somebody was putting these questions to me I would fold up and cry. But I think you're strong enough to handle them. First thing though, please try to get a med change. Saving some money there would make you feel like you took some positive action. I've been saying a special prayer for you everyday. We've never discussed our spiritual beliefs really on this board but know that you are surrounded by goodness projected at you.

{{{hugs}}}

 
Tillie
Posted: 08 October 2013 - 09:26 AM
 

Good morning 😀

Feeling alive today!
Cats had their breakfast and I am doing laundry.
When it warms up a bit I will get out and water some things.
Have some dishes to wash today too.
Got the house cleaning under control yesterday.
Was nice when a neighbor dropped by to sit in here and visit in a pine scented house. ;D
Nice to read all your posts and know how you all are doing.
This is a good place to speak your mind and let out all your feelings.

 
Karl
Posted: 08 October 2013 - 12:49 AM
 

Yes, I'm depressed. And one of the things that's fueling it is that my anti-depressant, despite being out of patent for several months, still has no generic version on the market -- so it's costing me $250/month for the damned pills.

I have family that I'm sure would take me in, but not within 1000 miles of here. A friend who does know of my situation has considered it, and decided not to offer, since she's convinced that I would avoid taking action to get my own place again.

 
MayMay
Posted: 08 October 2013 - 12:24 AM
 

Hey Tillie,
Sorry I accidentally forgot to mention you in my last post. I hope you feel stronger soon. 🙂

 
MayMay
Posted: 08 October 2013 - 12:21 AM
 

Hi everybody! 😀

Nothing to exciting has happened lately. Just working and hanging out with the guys. 🙂

Hi Dianne,
I feel the same way about the government shutdown.

Hi Roxie,
I think it's so cool that you decided to write a letter to those politicians. 🙂

 
Dianne
Posted: 07 October 2013 - 12:24 PM
 

Tillie, continue to take good care of yourself. Chores can always wait.

This morning I got all the pool furniture back in before severe storms are due to come in. My babysitting was cancelled due to grandkids activities cancelled because of weather.

I spoke to washer repair again. The fellow (I just wrote about his wife) is coming again tomorrow during his lunch hour although he was booked til next week. He's putting together a folder of diagnostics and repairs and is talking to the manufacturer. If it can't be fixed tomorrow he will try to get a replacement washer for me.

With hard rains I'll be checking the attic for leaks. I'm not at all confident of roof repair since it seems like nothing functions as well as it used to in *the old days*.

This afternoon will be more work in the bedrooms. And some kind of warm casserole for dinner. That will be a treat for sure.

 
Dianne
Posted: 07 October 2013 - 12:12 PM
 

Roxie, it's great that your making your voice heard with these politicians. I can't deal with anything on that scale anymore.

Since my washer guy has been here so much this summer I've gotten to know him personally. His wife was a soldier overseas fighting for our freedoms. Her plane was shot down, she watched her best friend die, all the awful things you can imagine. She has been battling several types of cancer all of which went into remission. (My bet is that nobody gets that sick unless they're exposed to very bad stuff in the military.)

Now her brain cancer is back and it's inoperable. She's having a hard time getting the care she needs from the VA. She was transferred to another hospital for chemo. It seems like these politicians have no clue that their nonsense is playing life and death games with real people. How disgusting that our soldiers cannot be treated well because of cutbacks and shutdowns.

Around DC people are paying no attention to the closings of parks and accessible monuments. They are parking on the side of the road and walking around barriers of the parking lots.

I don't think the time is too far off when these regular people are going to be marching against government stupidity. It's time for a major overhaul.

 
Dianne
Posted: 07 October 2013 - 11:53 AM
 

Karl, I totally get doing other things rather than cleaning even when you know it's crunch time. I'm avoiding my bedroom because it's worse to be under the gun for it. What I've been doing just to get some movement is throw everything in bags or boxes and shuffle them somewhere else. Can you get your stuff packed, even haphazardly, as a start? Have you spoken to the landlords? Would your family be willing to take you or some of your stuff in til you get a plan?

If these things aren't good for you that's totally fine. I don't want to add more pressure by telling you what to do. You're a smart, logical guy. Bottom line you will make the best decisions for yourself when the time is right.

 
Tillie
Posted: 07 October 2013 - 11:51 AM
 

Good Monday morning everybody. 🙂
I just woke up. Not because I wanted to it was the cats decision that I should be up.
Feeling very weak and tired today but otherwise OK.
Was hoping to clean the bathroom, wash the floors and vacuum.
Need to shower and wash my hair. Maybe I will feel stronger after I do that.
Drinking tea right now to try to get this brain fog to lift.
Hope you all have some positive experiences today. 🙂

 
Roxie
Posted: 07 October 2013 - 10:22 AM
 

Dianne, that all sounds great to me! Imagine. Positivity. Not caring as much what others will think. All good stuff. And I particularly like your writing down triggers and ways to avert blow-outs.

Karl, you sound depressed to me. Are you on meds or do you think the might help? I'm concerned.

So today I haven't done any chores yet, but I will. I've been too busy reading news. And so far today I've written emails to: Speaker Boehner, Senator Cruz, and President Obama. Heck, they may never read them or care, but at least I've tried to make my voice heard. That feels good right now.

Hugs all around

 
Karl
Posted: 07 October 2013 - 06:41 AM
 

I was out all day Saturday and Sunday. Had some fun, but nothing accomplished at home. My sister phoned while I was out; I haven't had a chance to call her back. So far none of my family is aware of my looming homelessness.

 
Dianne
Posted: 06 October 2013 - 10:00 PM
 

This morning I was stressing again. I was worried about what my ex would think if he saw into the messy garage when he picked up Laura. I was worried about the beds coming and how much I still have to do and what will the guys think.

After a little cry I read an email from a fellow named Henrik who lives in Sweden. He runs The Positivity Blog and this one was about when you feel like giving up. I took his advice and figured, oh well, they're going to think what they think I can't let the worry immobilize me.

So I got the garage cleaned out again (how does that mess build up?) and then I did a power wash on the deck. The weather was right for both and with minimum upkeep they'll stay good for some time.

Tomorrow I'll deal with washing machine people again, do some work in my bedroom and wash some clothes when I babysit at my daughter's house.

I did laugh about the chips later, Roxie. They dogs did a nice job of cleaning those up for me by the next day. I keep a list of What Works and What Doesn't Work. I wrote the stress triggers and how to not get anywhere near the point where it builds to explosion.

When Laura came home today she brought me a bookmark with colorful peace signs all over it and the word Imagine. She said "This is to remind us to imagine how wonderful it will be when our whole house is clean." So we hung it in the foyer as a daily reminder. 🙂

 
Roxie
Posted: 06 October 2013 - 03:01 PM
 

Karl, I dunno, but I myself would be tempted to ask the LL outright. But I can be cheeky. 🙂

Tillie, don't you go off hiding if you stay sick, you hear?

LynnS: If your mom can find work, any work to get by for at least another year, she should be okay with social security. Still better if she can wait until she's 70. Of course, if she was married over 10 years she could look into tapping into former spouse's social security, too, and maybe get more. As for you discarding things (as opposed to donating), perhaps you can put them in someone else's garbage? 🙂

Dianne, I can just see you jumping on the chips. That's actually a good thing to do. I also recommend boxes of cereal. I ended up laughing when I did that. Maybe you need to take up something on an ongoing basis to cut stress, like a punching bag? They used to have something called Socker Boppers, which were inflatable boxing gloves you could punch things with so you didn't hurt your hand. My ex and I did that and boxed each other to vent. LOL

Today I've spent most of the day reading online newspapers and commenting. I'm learning a lot about American foreign policies and our screw-ups, as well as politics of other nations, terrorist groups, cultures of other countries and just all kinds of history. I love learning. But the politics tires me out a lot. So complex and confusing. But I like submitting my opinions. hehe

Basics getting done today. Not sure about anything else. I keep forgetting it is Sunday. Have yet to go down the drive and retrieve mail and the Sunday paper but I will. I'll get something done. Yes, I will.

Hugs to all

 
Lynn S
Posted: 06 October 2013 - 12:01 PM
 

Karl my guess is the higher rent
the clutter may be the second reason
Any progress in decluttering is a huge progress no matter how little has been done.
Just keep at it. 🙂

 
Karl
Posted: 06 October 2013 - 04:36 AM
 

I guessed wrong -- instead of berating me for leaving the conversation, she apologized for upsetting me. Which means I didn't get to use the insults that I'd saved up. Which is probably a good thing.

Any thoughts on whether the landlords seem more interested in my place getting decluttered, or in getting a higher rent? I don't trust my friend's opinion; she's been wrong about them before.

 
Lynn S
Posted: 05 October 2013 - 10:17 PM
 

Thanks Roxie and Diane,
According to mother, her position was supposidly being taken over by more technology, which they haven't got yet.
She's cleaning out, somewhat cleaning out a room so that I can finally get access to the scanner we have since it was completely buried with stuff. Visable but buried and couldn't get to nor use.
She said that she needs a little bit more work but will do it. I don't think she's throwing out anything yet but don't know where she's putting things either. She said she's expecting 10 boxes from work that were at her desk but she said that she's going to throw most of it away when she gets it. The boxes are being shipped. I think she realized that she has a lot of stuff but still doesn't understand to not get stuff that you'll never use at the moment or ever use. She is also an impulse buyer.
I tell her I don't get things I don't need. What ever I buy I need to use almost immediately. Other than the one in one out rule of MY Stuff only. I only fear of throwing things out she may see in my garbage can before I throw out that she may bring it back in the house as she has before such as re-usable bottles I haven't used in years or other stuff I haven't used in many years.

So far I am ok sneaking out clothes and books to donate and extra reusable bags that I don't need but she has an over abundance of. I only get rid of the extra resuable bags that I don't need that I bought. I only need about two or three tops. I have the cloth bags, not the cheap reusable ones.
A correction, for her retirement, she was only 1 month away in November from retireing, not a year.
She just needed about 1 or 2 more years to pay off the bills then retire. She will be 66 in November.

 
Dianne
Posted: 05 October 2013 - 10:22 AM
 

Tillie, if you haven't seen it there are 2 new people who posted yesterday and today on Cleanup Help. Can you give them some good advice?

Diane, you got SO much done in one day! Real stuff, not just little things. Loved hearing how you smashed up that toilet!! I did a little smashing of my own last night.......nothing productive though.

Lynn, great to see you back! You sound happy. Sorry about your mom's job loss. I really hope it doesn't send her into further hoarding.

Roxie, I think the stress of repairs finally snapped me last night. The washer guy was here on Thursday. Yesterday (Friday) I got 3 loads done and the washer broke again. I called the company for the 6th repair since May. I can't even get into all the mind blowing effed up details about trying to reach the company and service department and dealing with them.

In spite of the fact that I had gotten a lot of work done related to the kitchen and animals those phone calls and no washer again put me into a rage. The lid was on tight. I got some chips to watch the end of a playoff game with Laura and tripped in the familyroom. My toes got tangled in the handles of yet another plastic bag and it felt like I broke a toe.

The end. The tightly closed lid blew off. I went totally ballistic. I mean screaming, raging, out of control destructive. That loss of temper may come up once every 5 years or so. I stomped the chips into the floor with my good foot, I threw shit all over the place, whatever I could grab aimed at whatever I could knock over. I cussed like a drunken sailor (not so unusual for me) and screamed how I hated this house, I hated the mess, I hated that crap that breaks down, I hated the incompetent, so-called repair people, I hate I hate I hate.

Animals scattered everywhere. I didn't even see them run they must have been so fast. I didn't see a cat in sight for hours. The dogs were too shocked to bark. Laura just said, "Are you ok Mom?" I screamed, "NO I'M NOT OK!! DON'T TALK TO ME!!" Of course there was much cussing in those words.

My sweet girl just said how about we watch a movie and we'll take care of all this tomorrow.

So here I am today with a swollen, purple toe. Already talked to another manager, wrote a letter to the company and will give them one week to repair or give me another new washer.

There's a guy who is supposed to come and help me with yard work today. The bed people are supposed to deliver this week. The electrician is supposed to come this month.

Other than the beds I think I need to pull back a bit. Too much change, too many people, faster than I am used to. My progress needs to be a little slower to be comfortable. And no, Roxie, I haven't even tried that hot shower yet.

In spite of all that nonsense I am in a good mood today. I can laugh about it now. 🙂

 
Tillie
Posted: 05 October 2013 - 10:00 AM
 

Good morning everybody! 😀
GREAT to hear from you all.
Still nursing this head cold.
The cats have been taking good care of me.
Last night three of them were snuggled up in bed so close to me I couldn't move. 😉 lol
Should be better in a few more days.
Take care and keep posting. 😀

 
Roxie
Posted: 05 October 2013 - 03:17 AM
 

Lynn S, good to hear from you! Does you mom have any suspicion that she was let go due to age? If so, she should look into that. Meanwhile, from everything I study, folks need to wait until at least 67 now to retire, 70 being better, at least in terms of Social Security. The longer you wait the bigger the check, by far. And I hope for you also to get a full-time job that you like.

Diane, wow, you got a whole lot done. What did you use to cut the branches? Please tell me you weren't tree climbing with a chainsaw??? And I'm smiling over the toilet smashing... doing things like that IS therapeutic. I once rehabbed a bathroom and knocking down walls was so fun! I had to hire someone to build it back together but that was okay. I tried hauling the wallboard from the garage to the house and could not do it.

Tillie, if you need to, is there a walk-in clinic type place you can go to about being ill? We finally have one near here and it is so much easier and faster than a regular doctor visit if I need to go.

Dianne, I liked reading your list because now I know it is in your head and available to you as options. I truly believe in options (they are always there). How are you doing since the Invasion of the Repairmen? 😀

I got the usual two done yesterday and finished putting away the groceries. Got one more garbage bag out the door. I think today I'm going to fiddle with getting pictures from my camera to my computer and see how that goes.

Did you hear that Hoarders has been cancelled? 🙁

Hugs

 
Lynn S
Posted: 04 October 2013 - 09:41 PM
 

Hello everyone,
I have good and bad news.
I was able to get a job with a job agency but it doesn't lock in a job for long term guarnteed. spelled wrong I know but don't know how to spell that word, the bad news is that mother (hoarder) got laid off from her work after +20yrs. She was only one year away from retiring yet.

She does have a professional paid by the company she worked for to help her find another job.

I work sometimes Monday through Thursday from 6am to 6pm. The trouble is sometimes now I get called in to work instead of asking if I can show up the next day.

If I'm able to work at least 2 or 3 days it's fine. The company I work for is one of the two that doesn't have direct deposit which sucks but am greatful to be working and do hope to get my union card. I need to be working 30 working days to get it. At this rate it will be in early November until that happens if at all. I'm still applying for cleaning jobs but am happy woking in a factory.

Don't know when the Online support times are now other than maybe Sundays.

Hope all is doing well and will try to keep reading when I can. Still hoping for a secure job that I won't lose in a couple months.

 
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