| Tillie | Posted: 14 June 2018 - 04:29 PM |
Welcome to the NEW and hopefully improved message board page. π | |
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| Tatoulia | Posted: 07 August 2018 - 08:48 PM |
Kitty is using her chair! Thanks everyone for asking. Glad your heart grandson is visiting tmr! Good work on surfaces, SubC. Tillie I am so worried about your health with the smoke and I am heartsick over the fires. Sending lots of β€οΈβ€οΈβ€οΈ To Anony! Yes we need some bunny advice from CM! I bet SubC's little visitor will love the bunny. Before leaving for work this AM I cleaned the litter box and got the trash and recycling out. I should have done it last night, but I got it done. Sending love and hugs to everyone. I am dying in this heat. But I'm looking forward to cooling the living room, pouring an iced tea and making progress on my cabinet. I can't break this date again. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 07 August 2018 - 07:32 PM |
Hi Anony, I love your pictawords. π Tillie, I am sorry. I thought when you said you washed the smoke off that it was over. I hope that it is soon. Tatoulia, did the kittie like her chair cover? I think the cake decorating will come in handy when you start to have people over again. Taking my container was a payoff for getting things more orderly - when I don't have too much stuff and it is put away properly, I can find the container easily when I am getting ready to go to the store and avoid a plastic bag. Better than hoarding the plastic bags I already got because I feel guilty about them and then not finding the container or having it be buried and dirty and so getting another plastic bag.... I got all the stall cleaning done today that I needed to do. (A little bit to do tomorrow and another big push on Thursday) I also put away 4 loads of laundry that had accumulated on the guest bed (surface) and washed, dried and put away a 5th. The addition surfaces are ebbing and flowing, but they can't stay perfect and they are not getting more than 15 minutes worth of messy - usually just dishes I put off because the dishwasher isn't ready to load (it's running right now) or a book or project i'm coming back to before bedtime. I dumped the rest of the very bad vegetables in the compost, but I did not deal with the lettuce boxes. Bunny ate her lettuce all up. I'm afraid to give her another one tonight - it was so big! (CM?) but she can have one tomorrow I think. Tonight just bunny food. Heartgrandson s coming out tomorrow morning. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 07 August 2018 - 07:13 PM |
Anonymoniker (((HUG))) π | |
| Anonymoniker | Posted: 07 August 2018 - 05:58 PM |
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| Tillie | Posted: 07 August 2018 - 09:25 AM |
Good Morning Everybody π Hi Subclinical π I am not out of the wildfire smoke yet. Hi Tatoulia π Today I plan to water the mountain laurels and ash trees. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 07 August 2018 - 07:04 AM |
Wow! I am so impressed that you brought your own container for the lunch meat!!!!! Congratulations!!!! Hey SubC I'm complaining about my weight and I'm taking a cake decorating class! I used to bake quite a bit, especially in grad school when I needed to unwind. Now I just bake brownies when I go to someone's house for dinner. I'm late for work and haven't showered yet. Yikes | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 07 August 2018 - 05:39 AM |
Yay tatoulia for vacuuming the chair! I bet the cupboard will be the same - it builds up and seems so huge, but when you dig into it tomorrow it will not be as big a deal as you think. When I read my posts about my weight and then I read my post about baking, I think "why don't you just stop baking subc?" But it isn't like that. Dh eats most of the baked goods, and I make a lot of things so that I can make them healthier than store bought. When I buy things like spaghetti sauce I read the labels and get one with simple ingredients and no added sugars - not even "natural flavors" because those could still be sugars. And when I don't have food bank bread, I bake my own bread. I should probably stop eating the food bank bread. I know it is not good for me. It started out as a "treat" but lately there has been a loaf or two tossed in my box that is perfectly edible - just squashed in one place, or unlikely to be taken (the 7th loaf of dark rye or for example) and we have too much to store - almost every week. Tillie, I missed the post you made right before mine. I am glad you are out of the smoke now! I am lucky with the recycling. I have one drop off just as I come into the town where I do most of my errands (grocery, bank, thrift store, gas, library and post office all clustered in a mile) but the lot is hard to turn into and out of because it is off a narrow busy street and you drive down what is more an alley between buildings than a street, even though it has a street sign. So I prefer to use the drop at the park on the way to work. - most of the summer I don't go to work though. Trash just mostly goes back to the grocery store. I was really pleased with my shop this week. I was looking at it on the conveyor belt, and the trash included: macadamia nut box that I can possibly reuse, fruit stickers, and four plastic quart sized bags that I will use as "trash bags" - three with the pretzels in them and one with mixed nuts. I got brave and took my reusable container to the deli and asked the young man to put dh meat in it instead of a ziplock bag, and he did, and he was very nice about it. It would obviously be better if dh did not eat deli meat, but I change what I can, and he has the metabolism for it. So, that will save about 50 plastic bags a year! Today my most important job is stall cleaning, but it is supposed to rain again, so I will try to find a surfaces task too. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 06 August 2018 - 09:54 PM |
I vacuumed the chair. I have an attachment that is specifically for pet hair. I then put a pillowcase on the chair. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 06 August 2018 - 09:43 PM |
Okay Tillie, Wednesday it is! Dog ate my homework!!! So funny! Very hot here and the air was terrible outside. I got home tonight and just slept. Wow SubC you did so much! That mustve been really hard to not get the plastic shelves. Good work! I agree, not embarrassing husband. No need for that. Having a pleasant evening out is so important. I didn't know Steven had thyroid issues. My intolerance of heat is the hardest part. I can't take any bit of heat. I can only wear very thin cotton cardigan sweaters. No more wool. No more pullovers. I can't take it. I'm running the dishwasher. I will feel so much better about myself after I've dealt with the cabinet. It terrifies me. And yet, the experience a few weeks ago wasn't all that terrible. Back to bed. I had wanted to vacuum kitty's new chair today. I wonder how traumatizing it would be to just take a minute to do now. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 06 August 2018 - 08:35 PM |
Hi Subclinical π HI Anonymoniker π | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 06 August 2018 - 06:13 PM |
Hi Tess! What a nice motivation. π Tatoulia, I bet you will put that monster in his place on Wednesday! I don't know the most I have ever weighed. I was pregnant and the day the nurse called out "199" I asked her to just write the number on my chart and not say it out loud any more - but I was pregnant for 6 more weeks, and I didn't stop getting bigger. Dropped back to 135 without really trying by the time she was 2, so my current situation is very frustrating. I'm not sure dh would be ok with me bringing a container. I think he would be embarrassed. I don't want to ruin a lovely dinner by embarrassing him, so I try not to order too much food. My kids and friends, I will totally embarrass. So, my day. I took a set of stacking drawers and some materials back to school today and went to the grocery store. Sugar was on sale (I do a lot of baking, plus ice cream and canning.) but I was saved from decision making by "limit four" so I have 16lbs of sugar. There were dark chocolate pretzels on clearance, so I bought a bag to open for dh lunches, a bag to hide from him for later because he will eat the whole lunch bag this week, and a bag to take on my road trip Saturday as my treat. Macadamia nuts on clearance too, but still expensive, But I added one little package to my trip bounty (i'm driving 11 hours to visit my parents) otherwise I stayed on the list. Dropped off the trash and recycling, repotted my ginger, and that brings us to now. I did not stop and bring home the modular plastic shelf that was by the side of the road. It was hard, and I slowed down, but I did not stop. I told myself "you have two boxes of lettuce, sick goats, a fall garden to plant, and a bunny with fleas. You do not have time for that." | |
| Tillie | Posted: 06 August 2018 - 05:54 PM |
Good Afternoon π Hi Tess π OK Tatoulia Yes, all my life I have been skinny. Got the bathroom all clean. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 06 August 2018 - 01:13 PM |
Tess!! You are back! I'm pleased you are working on your place and how nice to have a new love interest!!!! We are all working on surfaces this month! Let's get your counters scrubbed! Tillie no monsters will be slayed today, unfortunately. I'd forgotten that I had a work lunch and had to get showered, dressed and into office. Luckily I found out at about 10:40 so I had plenty of time to get ready and get into office. I would have been mortified if the timing had worked out any differently. I never even looked at my calendar today. Tillie I had pictured you very thin! My thyroid was a terrible issue but then I just used it as an excuse. I don't have my gland anymore and I take synthroid daily. My dosage was decreased in May due but I weight loss and will likely need another adjustment soon. I'll next be working at home on Wednesday. Monster has a short reprieve. | |
| Tess | Posted: 06 August 2018 - 12:00 PM |
Hi friends! Long time no talk! I'm so happy to see you guys are still around and doing well. I'm happy to see some weight loss talk too. I've been trying so hard to get my cholesterol in check. It's not easy passing on delicious foods. So, yeah....I'm back! I've been seeing a guy for a few months now. It's getting more serious. Which means eventually I'm going to have to invite him over. Yikes! I'm giving myself a one month deadline to get this place in shape for company. I'm nervous/excited. He makes me want to do better. I think this is a very good sign. Anyway, today I'm going to clear surfaces (kitchen counter, coffee table, kitchen table, bathroom vanity, bedside table) which I've been trying to keep up with, change sheets, clean cat litter, and take out a couple bags of trash. Pray for me, y'all! I really want this one to work out. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 06 August 2018 - 11:57 AM |
Good Morning Everyone π Hi Subclinical π Hi Tatoulia π As we get older it is much harder not to gain weight. Right now I am watering the flower/herb garden. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 06 August 2018 - 08:00 AM |
The salt adds up quickly for me, SubC. Could you leave a few Tupperware items in your car for those times you go out for dinner? My weight has been a struggle for a while. I was always fairly thin. I've been with BF for 14 years and I was at a normal weight when we met, then put on a few, lost those and was thin again, then I ballooned up. I used my thyroid disease and thyroid removal as an excuse but really I just ate and ate and ate. I turned into a secret binge eater. Ice cream mainly but pizza too. Ugh. I lost about 20 from intermittent fasting. After getting out from under my brother's abusive grasp, I went to a nutritionist/food coach and honestly, I don't feel like I'm dieting. She re-worked my brain and relationship with food. I do listen to her CDs to help me along the way. I am planning to have this work for life and I'll just make an appointment to see her if things go awry. She was very clear after the five week program that if I find myself in trouble, to get in touch sooner rather than later. My BF is European and eats healthy foods in small quantities and he's very thin. His sisters are gorgeous and thin. Well today's my date with the cabinet. SubC stay strong in the event someone tries to push bread on you. I will go pour my iced tea, get to work, and plan a md morning break to work on the cabinet. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 06 August 2018 - 05:21 AM |
Thank you Tillie, that was informative (but not mealtime reading!) Dh eats most of the ice cream. He is one of those people who can eat anything. He is constantly snacking and it makes it really hard for me. He took me out for dinner last night. We had a lovely time, but I ordered too much food (we split a large appetizer and then I got what I thought would be a small entree) and ended up caving in to the styrofoam clamshell to bring my leftovers home. And my weight is up 2 lbs this morning. I would like to say it was the salt, but I know it will take all week of eating healthy with no snacks/treats to get the two pounds back off. It is becoming harder and harder for me to budge my weight downwards and therefor harder to enjoy eating out. Which is bad, because it is something we both enjoy and I really appreciate the breaks from cooking. This morning I go to the food bank. I am resolved not to bring any bread home - there is still plenty in last week's box. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 05 August 2018 - 05:21 PM |
Hi Tatoulia π WOW! WTG! That's a great weight loss and you did it in a healthy way. I have been doing good with my "no processed sugar" challenge. I say the cats are indoor only cats but the cats say they are indoor/outdoor cats, if I would just open the door for them. I am procrastinating right now. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 05 August 2018 - 04:45 PM |
Ice cream is one of my favorite treats, SubC. So delicious. I haven't had any since I saw the nutritionist. Something inside of me snapped and I haven't been craving it. I've also steered clear of all sweets (meaning candy and cakes etc, not fruit). And oddly, the first time I got a muffin I ordered a bran muffin instead of my usual blueberry. So I guess her teachings have been good for me. I'm trying not to focus on the weight too much although as of last week I was down 12.6 lbs. I took mom out today and I drove her around to pretty places. She is extremely tired and fragile. I don't know how much longer I have her. So we just try to have some fun. I've scheduled a day off to take her to the museum of fine arts. We can use one of their wheelchairs and their dining options are very nice. My cat is the first indoor cat I've ever had. No rodents, no worms, no fleas, no scrapes from fighting, etc. I did like having indoor/outdoor cats but not in the city. Before I picked up mom today I thought, it would take me zero time to unload the dishwasher and wipe down the counters. And I was right. It went so quickly! House porn!!! I had no idea! I love the open spaces and the lack of piles of stuff everywhere. So nice! | |
| Tillie | Posted: 05 August 2018 - 03:16 PM |
Hi Subclinical π The Vet told me that my dog and cats got tapeworm when they bit at the annoying fleas and then inadvertently swallowed the flea. Hope this link works. Sounds terribly nasty hot & humid at your house. π Already 1:15pm here and I haven't had to turn on any fans or the cooler yet. Hi Anonymoniker π | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 05 August 2018 - 02:49 PM |
Ice tea clink! Tillie, I don't know about bunnies and tape worms - I hope not! The bunny is nice and fat and strong right now. We use a topical between the shoulder blades for the cat. I order it from Canada. I kept it on hand because it seems like we have to treat him about twice a year. I figured it was from eating mice and other critters. As far as I know, he has no fleas. My in laws actually live in a house porn house. When we come to visit they cover the good furniture with sheets. If you get up from the table during a meal (say because your farm sitter calls with an emergency) and mil finishes eating while you are gone, when you come back, your dishes have been cleared, washed, dried and put away. She also used to take my plate before I was done because I didn't eat fast enough: "Here, let me take that." "I wasn't done with it." "That's alright. We're going to have dessert now." I think that might be one of the things that helps dh be patient with me - at least i'm not the crazy he grew up with. Tatoulia, I did not feel attacked at all. I just felt awful about making you feel bad. I'm glad we straightened it out. I also think the cake decorating sounds very fun! And yes, I agree. Being able to come here for encouragement and reassurance is most important on the bad days! The rain still hasn't shown up, but the heat and humidity are nasty. If you stand in the shade for 20 minutes, sweat runs down your back. - as in runs, from your hair to your waist. Dh is on his fourth shirt. (He is in the studio barn which is only minimally insulated and has no a/c - just shade, a high roof, and a concrete floor., trying to fix a - the tractor, and b - the chainsaw.) I started the ice cream churn a little over an hour ago, and while it was running I loaded and ran the dishwasher and cleaned off about 1/4 of the old kitchen counter - which is now the official dumping ground for everything that has to be dealt with "later". Some of it I moved (basement, a related pile on the dining porch, car, reuse store bowl, goes back to school shoebox), and some of it I dealt with (recycle, trash, wash and put away) I'm going to do a quick sweep of surfaces in the addition and let dh know there is ice cream | |
| Tillie | Posted: 05 August 2018 - 11:38 AM |
Good Morning Everybody π Hi CriticalMass π Hi Subclinical π Hi Tatoulia π Little bit smokier here today, my cough is back. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 05 August 2018 - 08:00 AM |
SubC we cross posted! You are a very good communicator and I love you very much. Our safety net is in place and if one of us says something that hits us wrong, we will always work it out! Always. Be yourself. What I find important here is being able to have not made progress. Does that make sense? Making progress and getting the praise is great and fine and wonderful and loving, but the real value comes on those days when the self-loathing or depression or backsliding or frustration "wins". SubC, I used to feel like I'd abused my privilege of owning stuff. That's funny about the chairs! I am trying so hard to not have stuff laying around. I still cut out or save pictures of homes without clutter. And I keep telling myself: if you don't have someplace to put it, you have too much stuff. It is a struggle. SubC I need to thank you for helping me work out my issues yesterday. I did not mean to attack you and I hope you feel safe and loved here. I was afraid if I didn't express myself that I'd stop coming here and then I'd backslide. And be lonely. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 05 August 2018 - 07:50 AM |
Good morning, everyone! Yes Tillie we have a firm date to go back into the cabinet. Monday it is! (I hope I don't stand you up). Cm it is so hard to get cats to take their medicine! Keep trying. Sending you strength! Having the cats separated is certainly disruptive. Tillie I worry about your health and I respect your privacy. You are so important to us! SubC you did a great job not going to the sale! Sales like that can be raisin bread. Too much of a good thing. Anony what are you doing today? I think the humidity has passed. I have my windows open. Yesterday was very humid and stormy. We ended up having some friends drop by BF's with their three-year-old and a grownup friend from South America. We had a great time and after they left BF and I had dinner (our friend had already eaten). Our favorite go-to spot is being sold and we are trying to eat there before they are gone. I don't want to eat out for the next few days because my food last night was just so salty. I have half left for today, which I will pick up at BF's when I go get mom. Or maybe I won't eat it. I'm trying to remind myself that my body is not a garbage can. So if I'm craving it, I'll eat it. Otherwise I'll do something else with it. I'm doing a quick load of delicates. I'll do kitty's laundry tomorrow. I find I have too much idle time these days. This is shocking. It stems from not being harangued by sibling and having to "sleep off" the abuse. I've signed up for a cake decorating class at the local adult education center, which will be held over two saturdays in the fall. Well I know Monday's idle time will be spent in a cabinet. With the monsters. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 05 August 2018 - 07:39 AM |
Tatoulia, I am glad you are not upset by us anymore! I would never want to make you feel bad! I have a really hard time communicating with people. The lack of an edit button here really scares me sometimes, because the ability to edit often saves me. I recently had to stop posting on a B.B. that had been really helpful to me even though it had an edit button (nobody asked me to leave or anything, it just became clear that I was upsetting people all over the place and I couldn't figure out how to stop, so I left.) I feel like this is a really safe space. I am no looking forward to the day when you tell us all the neighbors came over for dinner! In contrast to you - my home is slowly looking less and less like the homes I grew up in. Which is a little funny, because in the last ten years I have added a lot of furniture and objects from those homes - but, the quantity of items has gone down, and we don't use chairs for storage anymore. (I literally grew up assuming that "just move [whatever was on chair]." was a perfectly acceptable and welcoming part of hospitality. Even though at times guest had to ask "to where?") chairs is a big one for me. And I am grateful that you think about plastic for me. I like thinking about your nice, easy to use drawer of tote bags. π Tillie, you are our number one cheerleader. I am so glad you made this space. I don't know if you saw the story about the duck with so many babies that was all over the Internet, but I feel like you are the crΓ¨che mama duck of our little flock - gathering us up and leading us around to learn all the things we need to know to survive. CM, I wish the technology wasn't so frustrating for you. I know how it feels because in my real life, I am usually the one whose tech doesn't work. In fact, at my job, when they introduce a new electronic program or procedure, they walk me through it. Then if I get it to work, they roll it out at a staff meeting and tack on "it's not hard. [subc] can do it." Except sometimes it doesn't work, and then they just tell me we'll have to figure out a workaround for me. (Like, I don't text stuff to the office - I send a kid with a note.) I really hope all your animals are healthy soon! Sick animals is one of my challenges right now and the stress and emotional and time investment can really throw everything else off. I slept really late this morning because for once dh gets to stay home all day and we are "relaxing". It's supposed to get very hot and rain soon, so I will hopefully make some progress on the house. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 04 August 2018 - 11:38 PM |
HC post 4 Aug 2018 Very quick again and I don't like that because there've been so many developments here I want to be able to respond more often. But I'll catch up, I hope. Tatoulia, I want to steal that list of yours! π It's awesome! Mar, my ADD kicked in, plus I had several interruptions the other day, and I didn't get those links posted. Luckily I had saved them in a Word document, so here they are: https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-symptoms-test-adults/ We're dealing with girl kitty's extreme reluctance to eat the new canned food with her antibiotic mixed in it. Hoping she's at least drinking some water. She looks thinner to me. She did lick a teensy bit of the food earlier, which could mean she's getting ready to crack. I hope so! Having to barricade the cats in opposite parts of the house, as I mentioned earlier, makes for more hassle getting things done. The rabbits are in the back and we have to go round outside to get there. Will be glad when all this is past us. I see a little notation below "Please upgrade to a supported browser to get a reCAPTCHA challenge." I hope I can still post this, because it's late and I really don't want to have to hassle with software updates, restart the computer, reload browser tabs, etc. Doesn't it always seem that our tech decides to misbehave late at night or when we're trying to do something in a hurry? Murphy's Law of Computing, for sure. Okay, fine. Saved it as a file on the flashdrive and posting from my tablet. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 04 August 2018 - 09:48 PM |
Hi again Tatoulia π OK great! lets make it a firm date to do more on that cabinet Monday! π I have been posting here ever since I asked Cory to let me make "The Daily Chat" thread. Love you all. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 04 August 2018 - 09:38 PM |
Hi Subclinical π Hi Anonymoniker π | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 04 August 2018 - 09:23 PM |
Awww Tillie thank you. I am looking forward to tomorrow. With all of you Tillie, when I first started here it was you, LR and Diane. And I was so warmly received and I couldn't believe it. And everyone kept telling me to drink water. I have still two areas that need a first pass. One of them I started, the cabinet. I will need everyone's help to get back in there. I'm thinking Monday, since that is trash night. I'll need to muster my strength. And some of yours! I also need to do a second pass on my upper kitchen cabinets. I am so happy with that one drawer being cleared and now used for my grocery tote bags. So much easier than have them at the ready. And not laying around. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 04 August 2018 - 09:21 PM |
Hi Tatoulia π I too feel my time is running out. | |