| Tillie | Posted: 14 June 2018 - 04:29 PM |
Welcome to the NEW and hopefully improved message board page. 🙂 | |
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| Tillie | Posted: 09 September 2018 - 04:17 PM |
Hi Subclinical Why doesn't DH vacuum any more? WTG! for finding more stuff for the resale shop! Treated myself to a pancake brunch. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 09 September 2018 - 03:26 PM |
Yay Tillie! You did the thing! It was a genuinely hard thing too. Not just a personally hard thing! I hope you are enjoying beautiful sunlight! I am still struggling. The addition is all cleaned up (but not "clean" - I miss the days when dh did all the vacuuming...) and I found a little more yarn for the resale store. But I feel asleep, or underwater, or something. I am having trouble with my sense of time because of the lack of light. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 09 September 2018 - 02:22 PM |
I did it. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 09 September 2018 - 10:46 AM |
Good Morning Everyone 🙂 Hi CriticalMass 🙂 Hi Subclinical 🙂 Have not ventured out into the garage to see if Steven has done anything. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 09 September 2018 - 09:48 AM |
We used to have bats around the barn in the evenings, but I haven't seen them for a long time. We have a lot more owls than we used to, so that may be why. I miss them though, they were cool! Not that I have much hope, but did Steven move anything? Tatoulia, hooray for walking and that feel good exercise feeling! CM, your craft table plans sound good! I am sorry about your kitty. But I hope church was a positive and uplifting experience for you today. I think we can do a lot when we listen to and support each other at a community level. The weather is awful here again today, so my sunlight dependent self wants to curl into a little ball and hibernate. Dh actually made me cry by asking me to discuss plans for some changes we want to make - I wanted to scream "don't ask me to make decisions! I can't! It's not fair!" I managed to say "look, I have a lot going on right now and this is too much for me today." But I did do two really good things! I put another coat of mud on the wall (still not the last coat! This wall is so uneven and battered!) And I joined a "timer tidy" challenge on another board. I think I win the prize for shortest goal, but mine is to do 5 minutes every day on stuff that isn't routine (routine would be picking up or cleaning living areas, dishes, laundry...) Today in my 5 minutes, I reclaimed an entire square foot of my basement floor. I have some stuff to go to school and some to go to the resale store. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 09 September 2018 - 09:04 AM |
Happy Sunday 🙂 It's really starting to feel like September to me. We have been having cool rainy weather. Boy kitty slept the whole night in my bed. Stole the covers for awhile too. I was able to reclaim just enough to cover my legs. Looks like we will have yet another installment of cat urinary troubles to navigate through. Pretty sure it's girl kitty still with lingering infection or else the crystals. It was such a struggle to get the medicine into her before. We'll have to see what the vet says. The cats have been on the new food and maybe it needs more time to work. It's sad to know she's probably in pain. The two of them have been having drama again and though they probably always will, if they feel better at least we can hope for less drama. You all nailed it about my "wanter" problem - we get one another so well! It has been frustration about not having a nice space to work on art, crafts, sewing, even writing and computer (which takes the least amount of space - that tells you how bad it is) that contributes to my giving in to the addiction to seek MORE. I a shared, not large house that had plenty of my roommate's own stuff before I arrived and even fitting me in was a challenge. Then over the years I expand bit by bit with purchases, projects, etc. The house itself is laid out with rather narrow rooms and halls, so there are many bottleneck areas. It's hard on me to get used to because the house I grew up in was larger and my mom was a neatnik. (That apple - me - rolled a ways after it fell from the tree!) Plus as part of my ADD I have sensory aversions to brushing up against others - my personal space bubble is pretty good sized. And my roommate grew up in a big family and small house so I come across as a persnickety whiner. Sigh. However, we are planning some solutions to implement. She wants to sew too, and I'm going to get a bunch of my stuff off the table in the back room that was intended to be a craft table. I also managed to rewire my sewing machine pedal - just with electrical tape again - I'll solder it later. My new walking foot is successfully attached to my sewing machine and ready to go this week for attaching quilt binding! When I finish that, and clear our craft table, we will both get a lot of enjoyment and productivity out of it. Yesterday I also overcame procrastination and dread, went to my storage, and did a few little things. It was a great payoff for a small effort. I had imagined the unit in a bigger mess than it really is. Don't get me wrong, there'll be plenty to do. But now that the weather is trending cooler, and I have a vehicle, I can at long last do as I'd hoped to do last fall and this spring, and get the stuff that I hurried to cram in from the old unit put in order. Probably find more to jettison in the process. Thanks everyone for your kind support about my church crisis emotions. Tatoulia, I'm sure you had a ringside seat for the mess in Boston, which is the sort of thing we'd hoped would be behind us by now but I guess that was naive to think there wasn't more lurking. I seriously wonder if McCarrick is a sociopath. Either that or he has an extraordinary ability to compartmentalize the contradictory parts of his brain. Sigh. Well, I pray and make extra effort to do good stuff at the grassroots level; we can all do something positive in some way to counter the effects of evil. Same as with 9/11 - the damage was great, no individual could repair it, but the collective efforts of individuals did much good. It even is in a strange and small way like conquering hoarding. Like Tillie, not giving up and doing those small things - you may be just surviving and a hair's breadth away from "screw it all!" - but you don't. That's a form of heroism often overlooked by a world that wants big, dramatic, showy epic resolutions, complete with fanfare music and rolling credits. Real life isn't often like the movies. We either deal or life rolls over us. I'm glad you're not smoking excessively. I grew up with a mom who had only had an occasional cig in social situations. Dad had smoked a little including a pipe, but hadn't by the time I arrived on the scene. I don't like bitter or sour tastes - only occasionally have coffee or a little sweet wine. My vices are more in the areas of gluttony and spending. I will pray that Steven actually does move the junk so you can reach the items you need. And so that no fires or accidents happen. I didn't know bats flew in formation like fighter jets! How cool! Well, time to fire my own afterburners so I'm not late to Mass! Iced tea clinks! | |
| Tillie | Posted: 09 September 2018 - 12:12 AM |
Good Evening everyone 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 I started smoking and drinking alcohol and coffee long before I was even born. Did a load of laundry then at twilight I went out and enjoyed the bats. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 08 September 2018 - 08:49 PM |
Hello everyone! CM so glad you are back. I can completely relate to the "wanted". Sometimes my thought process is, Ive gotten rid of sooo much, I deserve this little thing. But then I remember, I got into my situation one item at a time. And that helps me to put it back down and walk away. I too feel sadness about the Church and I can see how it weighs on you. This is our place to share our lives and this is an important part of your life and thus important to us. SubC so the doggie is at your house! Glad you found the right stools! Listen, we all have those walls we didn't finish. We are here to help each other face those issues. Right now I'm doing a quick load of kitty laundry and I'm running the dishwasher. I'm going to have two cabinets ready for the cleaners on Monday: the big no-longer scary one and one of the upper ones. And I'm happy about that. Tillie I was so saddened by your post. I am very sad about your dismal conditions. Unlike SubC (who is right), I thought, how nice that Tillie smokes (I am wrong, I know). A few times over the years, I have wanted to ask you if you smoked and I didn't. I had pictured you as a light smoker. As a former smoker, I cannot adequately express in words how much I enjoyed smoking. It was just so great. I'm fond of saying I only regret my last cigarette. I first quit in 1987, and that lasted til 1995. Then I let it go again and by 2002/3 I was smoking again. One pack on the weekends. Then it crept to a pack on Thursday, another on Saturday, etc and so forth. One thing is I didn't need to smoke during the day and I didn't like it in the AM. I was solidly a night/weekend smoker. Ah, but that too is long on the rear view mirror. I cannot guess how many years it's been. Maybe 10. Well I stayed late at work last night then walked home. Today a work friend was in the office so I walked down to see her and we walked around the city, had dinner, and now I'm home. Keep up the good work, everybody. I just scrubbed my kitchen counters and I shredded my mail. Kitty is on a clean pillow case on her chair. I'm physically tired from all the walking and that is a great feeling. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 08 September 2018 - 04:45 PM |
OK, he finally returned. Today I have watered the lilac hedge and finally washed the dishes. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 08 September 2018 - 01:56 PM |
Hi Subclinical 🙂 Even when scrap prices were higher Steven always refused to scrap anything. He is off on his always every Saturday thrift shop, yard sale, dumpster diving gathering. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 08 September 2018 - 12:42 PM |
Hi Tillie, We did get our stools. they are simple and wooden and look very nice in our kitchen. Sort of shaker style. I hope that you make some progress with Steven today and get him to move some of his stash. I keep wondering if all the tariffs will raise the prices for scrap metal. If they do, maybe you can convince Steven to cash in on some of his junk.... There is a guy down the road from me who does a big clean out of his junk yard (yard junk) when scrap prices go up. I have had a mysterious stomach ache all morning, but I am having a warm drink now and it is feeling better so I think I will get to work on my mess. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 08 September 2018 - 11:58 AM |
Good Morning Everybody 🙂 Hi Subclinical 🙂 Sitting here wondering if today I should try again to get him to move some of his stuff out of the way so I can do what I want/need to do. Oh well, not my style to give up... | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 08 September 2018 - 07:51 AM |
Tillie, i'm Glad I could make you laugh. I'm so sorry about Steven and the mess. If it wouldn't threaten you and your little nest, I would wish for a fire to come clean out his rat warren. You have such courage to deal with the situation every day. I have to say that it makes me sad to hear that you smoke though. I worry about your health and I watched my grandfather smoke himself to death and it was very ugly. I also know how hard it is to quit, but I am going to make one request that you think about how much we care about you when you want a cigarette and maybe try to do something else first so that you smoke a little less or less often? And now I won't bring it up again. CM, when my "wanter" gets into gear, I try to stay out of stores if I can. It's also a good time to sift through what you already have. Especially if there are things that have been packed away so long you don't really remember them. Finding favorite old stuff and pulling it to the surface can make your brain feel like it got new stuff. Today I need to clean up my house. Dh wants to take me to get new stools for the kitchen. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 07 September 2018 - 11:07 PM |
Hi CriticalMass I honestly believe that your "wanter" will settle down and be satisfied once you have the time to do your sewing and dolls and arts & crafts. What you really want is that creative outlet and to finally be able to use all the things you have already gathered for this. The best way for the "minimalist" to tame the "wanter" is to allow the "wanter" to be free to create. Another Friday night... | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 07 September 2018 - 09:15 PM |
Tillie, I'm sorry it's gotten so much worse with Steven and the hoard. I can see how the accidental cigarette drop would be very tempting. And I don't have a hoarding problem to that degree but I haven't gone in the direction I intended to this year either. I've been quite aware of my "wanter" being reactivated. For awhile I had been able to walk through Walmart or somewhere and think how I didn't want stuff. Now I am wanting certain items - dolls, fabric, art and craft supplies - even though I have enough to start a store! The tension between the wanter and the would-be minimalist in me is strong. It swings back and forth. I think the minimalist will ultimately tame the wanter, but not without effort and negotiation. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 07 September 2018 - 10:58 AM |
Good morning everyone. 🙂 Hi Critical Mass 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 Hi Subclinical 🙂 My house is a big mess, but I don't care. Sorry to go on about all this but sometimes I just can't pretend to ignore it any longer. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 07 September 2018 - 04:48 AM |
That awful dog has been busy! Wednesday after school he tucked my tools in the "leave here" box and I didn't have them at my class i'm Taking yesterday morning! All I could do was take notes. My elbow is very sore this morning anyway, so maybe he thought he was protecting me. Tatoulia, I love reading about your "overnight success" it helps me believe I will get there. And I am very happy for you. Tillie, I hope today is a little brighter. CM! It's great to hear from you! I don't mind at all if you talk about your church. I know it is important to you. I didn't realize you were catholic. I definitely know that "things that need to happen before things" feeling. I have a confession - dh moved my ladder and I stalled out on my wall because it felt to overwhelming to move it back. Now I have piled things in the way again, so they have to be moved, and every time I go down in the basement, I don't know where to start. So I go away again. I have to clean all the stuff that was left behind by Dd off the guest bed because dh parents are coming to stay on the 22. That sounds like a long time, but you guys understand that two weeks is not long enough to pick up the house and clear off the guest bed and vacuum. Especially now when I am teaching again and the living spaces are a mess with the dishes and laundry backed up by Friday. I was kind of bad though. Dh asked if the 22nd was ok (i'd say no, but they are his parents and I can't suggest "half past never" as an alternative) and I said "it's the equinox." Dh, who doesn't "get into that stuff", asked, "well can you do equinox stuff with my parents here?" And then he forgot he was respectful and added "maybe we could burn a witch." And before my brain could weigh in, my mouth shot out "sure. Your mom will be here." There was a silence and then he said "I set you up on that one." I'm sure it will be fine. I stopped caring what they think when he finally did. One advantage of knowing people can never be pleased is freedom to stop trying to please them. Anyway, last day of the first week of school today. Tired and excited. Dh is taking all of tomorrow off and we are going to "hang out" I think next week will be a little easier. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 06 September 2018 - 08:53 PM |
I keep going missing for longer than I intend to but I find my way back. And usually several of us are dealing with somewhat similar things. I think our cats are past the physical illness but they still hiss and occasionally fight. Wish we could find the key to getting them to be friends. I went to the doctor yesterday and surprise! I really need to kickstart my stalled out weight loss. Which I had wanted to do anyway. Was going to resume going to the gym. But I'm still waiting for everything to align to finish the binding on my quilt. I want that DONE. I got the edges of the quilt layers basted so they'll stay in place. In doing so, I discovered I needed a walking foot for my sewing machine. Before that I'd also discovered the foot pedal needed wires reattached to its circuit board. This will involve soldering. I have my dad's soldering iron but I first need to learn to solder, so I printed out some instructions. My life seems so full of things that need to happen before the things I want to do can happen. Do you all find that to be the case as well? Either I'm dealing with backlog or putting out unexpected fires. Or being interrupted by the phone while attempting to do these things. And somehow all that translates into more clutter and more convoluted problems, more things to do. Trying not to get stressed, which is sometimes easier said than done. I've also, as you can imagine, following the extremely disturbing and sad news of more scandals in my beloved Catholic Church, and just praying that the shakeup and purification will result in justice for the perpetrators and healing for the victims. I won't, as one person put it, abandon Jesus because of Judas. But the whole sordid business weighs on those of us who know things could have been handled better so the human suffering could've been prevented and the time it's going to take to rebuild trustworthiness could've been spent doing positive good, helping people. I hope you don't mind my mentioning this topic; I realize it's not our usual fare. But it's part of what weighs on me, and I pray none of you have suffered personally from it but if you have, I am in solidarity with you. I realize we follow various spiritual beliefs here; the things I've said are intended in a spirit of transparency and candidness which I think is needed in these difficult times. I am grieving, basically, and it's painful but there's no way out but through. Thanks for your support in the little things and the big things. Glad we're all here. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 06 September 2018 - 08:50 PM |
When I graduated from grad school, my mother threw a party here in Boston at one of the hotel restaurants. She had never hosted a party before. I think there were probably 14 of us at the dinner. And the day of the dinner mom and I went to one of the flower stands and we bought red roses and purple irises for the table. At the time I was the only family member here, mom was in Midwest and my brother was in college in NY. Or he may still have been in prep school, also in NY. I never much gave irises any thought before that and now when I see them, I think of that evening, which was so delightful. I am gathering up the garbage and the recycling. I am not yet done with kitty's box. I need to unload the dishwasher. I did all of my laundry today, only kitty's stuff remains. I even changed my sheets. I need to focus at the office tmr. I spent a lot of time on Wednesday obsessing over the doggone power cord. I would love to vacuum but I think if I can focus on dishes, finishing cat box and working on cat's eating area then I can leave vacuuming to Monday. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 06 September 2018 - 07:58 PM |
Hello everybody Thank you Tatoulia (((HUG))) Went out in the yard this morning and dug out some old non-blooming iris in a small area. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 06 September 2018 - 03:34 PM |
Standing right by your side. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 06 September 2018 - 01:47 PM |
Hi Tatoulia Darn that peeing dog... That was perfect timing on the jacket "hand-me-down". Good luck with your cabinet plans. Still struggling but working on it. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 06 September 2018 - 10:43 AM |
Good morning everyone!! Tillie you are going to be surprised about my power cord! Whoever stole it from work then broke into my house and put it on my desk. DO YOU THINK IT WAS THE PEEING DOG? I figured out what happened. Since Friday was a short day at work, my battery didn't run out and I didn't realize that I'd left the cord at home. Or was it the dog?? I'm proud of you SubC for finding your things so easily! I'm on my third load of laundry! Yesterday two people at work commented on my jacket and I said, I've only worn it twice but I'm not going to wear it again. I can launder it and give it to you and one of the women said, I'll launder it. So at the end of the night I put it in the closet closest to me and sent an email. That was a good feeling. It fits and it's fine but I realized yesterday I wouldn't be wearing it again, so the timing was perfect. My skirt yesterday was falling off of me. I'll launder and take to good will. Even with the heat, I don't think I can wear it again. It's a nice neutral summer skirt. I bought it this year when it was too tight. I'm sorry to focus on this so much but honestly things are coming together for me. I'm an Overnight Success, five years in the making. I'm keeping up with the housework and my weight. I will make a second pass on one of my kitchen cabinets tonight because the cleaners come on Monday and I'd like to have two for them to scrub. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 05 September 2018 - 11:29 PM |
Hi Guys Thank you both so very much (((HUG))) Subclinical, Tatoulia, | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 05 September 2018 - 08:14 PM |
SubC! You do so much in a day! I am so impressed! Today I went to office then I walked home. Very hot. I didn't part of my day at the office stressing because the power cord to my laptop went missing. I'm wondering if I accidentally left it on the desk when I left the office Friday. IT lent me one and they are going to have to order one. I can't brlieve someone took it. We have tons of power cords but I have one of the new laptops and they don't have any extras. I really obsessed, which was useless and a waste of my time. I am working at home tomorrow as we are going to have a terrible heat day then a respite over the weekend. I am going to run my dishwasher now. I'm also hungry but not sure if I'll make dinner or just have a V8. Tillie sending you love. Take whatever time you need. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 05 September 2018 - 05:43 PM |
Tillie, I am so sorry you are in the black hole. If you can, imagine all of us with our arms around you. We understand if you just need to close your eyes and give in for a while, so no rush, but we are ready to lift if we can. One step at a time, the light is there. School is my happy place. I get sooo tired though, but I don't even notice until I come home and stop moving. Today I did my normal morning route be plus yoga with dh and started a load of laundry. Drove in an hour, Taught from 9:30 to 3:30 with a 45 minute "break" (paperwork and orienting my class helper), drove home, had a snack (breakfast?), filed papers from classes today and put the laundry in the dryer, drove down the road for a load of hay, and got it racked in the barn before the rain started. Dh is on his way home with a bottle of wine and some sauce for the last of my ravioli. I have been slowly shifting things back to school this week. Much to my surprise I have been able to find most of them. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 05 September 2018 - 04:02 PM |
Tillie I am so sorry. Depression strikes and all you can do is claw. The kitties and I love you and we need you. If you need a plane ticket (anywhere) let me know. I know your health is suffering and I suspect that the physical pain heightens your isolation. Please know you have friends here and we love you so much. You have made an immeasurable difference in our lives. TILLIE I have peace because of you. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 05 September 2018 - 09:18 AM |
Good Morning Everyone Hi Subclinical Hi Tatoulia Have fallen into a deep black bottomless chasm. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 04 September 2018 - 07:41 PM |
Wow! Great blood pressure. My all time low is higher than your summer numbers. But I'm working on it! Glad your day went so well and that you have been working on your dishes. I need to do my dishes now and brew some iced tea. I didn't do anything today other than vote and go to dr. I saw an adorable toddler at the dr's and she was so sweet and cried when I left. Boy she was a dear heart. Tomorrow is supposed to be terrrible heat-wise. Today ended up not being so bad so I could've walked to and from dr; however, I was out of time and needed to drive. I really wanted to walk home. Tillie my dear what are you doing? Any trouble with someone peeing out of turn? I hope not! Tigger is doing well on his meds. I'm proud of him for taking his pill twice a day. We hide it in turkey. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 04 September 2018 - 07:17 PM |
Tatoulia, hope the drs appt went well. Keeping up with the dishes (actually, was behind and am a tiny bit less behind.) Made dinner. Had a great first day of school. So much paperwork to wade through! Determined to stay organized and not get behind on it this year! (I've been monitoring my blood pressure on doctor's orders. Today, after my first day back with my kids it had dropped to 118/62 after spending the whole summer at 125-132/75-84) And my classroom ceiling is leaking. Still dropped my blood pressure. | |