| Tillie | Posted: 09 December 2016 - 09:56 AM |
Good morning everybody 🙂 Great to read your posts on phase five! 😀 WAY TO GO!!! Everybody on every accomplishment, especially the little ones that really do add up and help make your homes the sanctuary of your dreams. | |
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| LR2014 | Posted: 07 April 2017 - 09:44 AM |
Testing . . . Tried to post a few minutes ago, but it didn't show up. Rather than re-post it, I'll check back later to see if it just got delayed. Meanwhile . . . good morning, everyone! | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 06 April 2017 - 11:49 PM |
Good work, CM! Great job making use of a frustrating situation! I've got to get to bed. Need to go in to office tomorrow. Hoping I'll do more than just laundry this weekend. I need to vacuum and dust and shred some mail. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 06 April 2017 - 07:06 PM |
Hi again Winding down my afternoon. Still waiting for the repair guy and my roommate should be getting home soon, too. Dunno what the evening will be like - he has to replace a pipe and it's under the house in the crawlspace. So I guess it could be done in the evening as well as in the daytime, going to need artificial light either way. Don't know what that will do to the evening . . . I MUST go to the grocery store tonight and get ready for sitting with my elderly lady starting at 8 am tomorrow. I've been behind on things like the grocery store because of all this home repair rigamarole. But it must be done. My afternoon was very productive though, and I'm going to brag on myself just a teensy that I didn't wander about like a lost soul because I couldn't execute Plan A (storage unit); I got busy with Plan B (van) and got a lot done. Went through a box of assorted art hoard, By that I mean the sort of stuff a creative person saves "to use in a collage someday." That leaves it wide open to save a lot of crazy scraps! So I sorted and made a bag to take to either the city arts center if they want it, or maybe a daycare or friend with grandkids. I cut some colored paper up to write notes on (I'm constantly writing notes - but I do get them thrown away . . . eventually . . . trying to get faster at that process . . .). I brought in a couple of paintings in progress and got an idea or two where to go with them next. The scrapbooking paper and cardstock that was good went in one established paper holder. Trashy scraps went - in the trash! Also found 3 books to go to charity, neatened up other books that were there, pulled out a couple more smashed cardboard boxes, found the 2 hard drives from long-dead computers and had fun whacking at them with a hammer before I trashed them. Put jumbo rubber bands on my plastic boxes that hold fabric so they won't tip and spill if I turn a corner too sharply. (I'm hoping when the storage move happens those boxes can live in the storage unit instead of my van until I sew my way through the rest of their contents, i.e., my "stash" that has already been considerably pared down.) It looks neater in the van - not perfect but definitely better. I was able to observe other things that can be the target of future decluttering efforts. This is all going to make me less nervous about having too much weight riding around in there, and of stuff getting smooshed because it gets jostled around. So a good day. Hope you all have had a good one too. 🙂 | |
| Porter | Posted: 06 April 2017 - 03:55 PM |
Tat. I wish I could cross over from. Fasting for weight loss to fasting for health benefits. But my age and weight, I need to get to healthy weight before before doing more than semi fasting. I don't just want to live a long time, I want to live robustly, with art, music, love , great friendships , and lovers. For everyday to be filled with wealth of flavors, fancys, and vice. Diet and exercise. Sounds easy . But there so many ways to get trapped . I guess I could say my diet is geared for longevity. It took me a long time to find a good fit. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 06 April 2017 - 02:32 PM |
This'll be sort of a drive by. Things are going better today. I knew they would, just had to wait it out. The repairs aren't all done, and I thought he was coming around noon but he must've gotten held up. So I have to stay here. At first I was annoyed, as this is the nicest weather day we've had in awhile, and it would've been great to go work in the storage unit. But I went out to get something from the van, and that led to a decluttering spree! I've found some stuff to donate and some that can just be tossed. So this is turning out to be a helpful thing. I've been wanting to do the van again anyway, and it will help me find supplies I can be working with, documents I want to scan, and other useful things. And maybe I'll reduce some of the weight in there which will be easier on the suspension and gas mileage. The cats are in the back room again but less fussy today. One did yack up a hairball in my roommate's office - payback? Just had lunch, heading back out to do more. 🙂 | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 06 April 2017 - 11:13 AM |
Just noon here. Working from home and doing laundry. It's trash night. Another rainy, raw, cold day. The cats haven't settled down yet so I've got my hands full. Brought dinner to mom last night. Keeping up with her laundry and my own. I'm working to keep her place nice. She seems to be happy having it all cleaned up. I did leave pile of papers on dining table so she'd have something to go through. But no other stray things anywhere else. All books in shelves, no piles of boxes everywhere, no piles of boxes under dining room table, no expired food, etc. I have her using only disposable dishes. Her sheets are changed and washed on Mondays but if she wants it done sooner I will take care of it. Porter, I resumed fasting the week. When I do it, I do 5/2. Cannot do three days of fasting. I find on fast days I sleep poorly but I climb into bed early so I don't feel tempted to eat. Oddly, I'm never very hungry on my food day. | |
| Joan | Posted: 06 April 2017 - 06:19 AM |
It is valuable to have others support you. It is difficult to live on the planet without the support of others. What is most important, however, is your own intuition. Things are not usually what they seem. A number of us have had serious trouble with all or some of our family members, the same family members who may have seemed "supportive" at one time or another. The most progress I have made in my life has come from removing those entities that were not supporting me, but pretending to support me. They were actually feeding off me. I get by with a bare minimum of support from other people here. Support has to be geniune. Unfortunately, most "people" on the planet are not in a good enough place to offer constructive support to others. The good news is that, despite what you may see on the news, human nature is changing for the better, in a planetary sense. Most of the "negative" news I see now really is the uncovering and resolving of inhumane behavior that has been going on unchecked, secretly, since the human race began. Have a good day, everyone. | |
| Porter | Posted: 05 April 2017 - 07:04 PM |
I left something out when I discussing my daughters financial future. And what I intend to contribute is a RV,cabin, and sailboat. I also hope to teach her about what is most important. I've spent my whole lifectryi g to get an education , own my own home, have a car, RV, SAILBOATS. I like to add my peers to that list, they're not always polite, not always friends, but I'm so glad they are willing to give me attention, Wether I deserve it or not. I know this may come out wrong, so please forgive if it does. Some peers say things without any tact at all. I take it wrong , and I lose trust. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 05 April 2017 - 06:26 PM |
Dear CM, that sounds dreadful. All of it. Dreadful and undeserved. And I'm sure the teasing was all the worse because you thought you were in a safe place. Take comfort in knowing that we've all unknowingly said the wrong thing and your quilting friends meant you no harm. Do not make that a reason to go to quilting. If you have to, just say quietly at the beginning of your time, I'm going through a lot and don't feel like myself. Im embarrassed I'm behind but I'm glad to be here. Try it. It has worked for me. Also, have a big cry. Do it with a friend if you can. Stop by and see the bunnies (and forgive me if you aren't the friend with the bunnies/I confuse who is who sometimes). Tell the kitties you are sorry. See if you can sit on the floor with a kitty or a bunny and just enjoy the feel of fur. It is tough. It is tough being a hoarder. It is tough having financial problems. You will get through this. Just don't insult yourself. You are entitled to feel bad/just not for too long. We are right here and we like you just as you are. It will get better. It's just lousy right now. | |
| Porter | Posted: 05 April 2017 - 05:20 PM |
Thanks Tat House is still a whirl of unfinished maintenance work. It's unpleasant. I try not to say things can't get worse, because I seen things go from bad to worse. Many times. I've learned , that I personally am the only one whom can change my environment. I wish I could say my recent success , is a model. Keeping the trash routine, organizing the hoard in storage unit . I think it was the commitment to reclaim space one room at a time. Because I was no longer getting overwhelmed by the big picture. Once it was clear enough to invite helpers over , they could use the restroom, and eat in the clean kitchen. Thing started gaining momentum. And then I call all my volunteers for a Chili party and nearly 20 people's came. The trade off for all that effort. Is were no longer isolated and embarrassed of home. Mother in law stays in a room that was filled with clutter, there is now a caring mother in there. A maid service comes once a month. I couldn't get past the overwhelming feeling for years, but I finally got the chance, everything changed. Even the big picture changed, once the hoard was gone. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 05 April 2017 - 04:54 PM |
Hi CriticalMass 🙂 Thank you so much for throwing this pity party and inviting all of us. It does get frustrating when there are roadblocks and obstacles slowing us down. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 05 April 2017 - 02:27 PM |
Warning: Whiney Pity Party Vent I'm tired. Physically and mentally and emotionally. It gets old, having life all hamstrung. Putting the kitties in the back room which they hate, hearing them cry... but workman won't be here till later... Discovering at 6:30 the dog had pooped on the bathroom floor... Going to quilting and being teased that I'm making excuses why my quilt top has stalled out (I know the ribbing was meant good natured but even so it rubs a raw nerve)... Running on fumes hoping to make it to the gas station, and making it only to find the price has gone up which renders my 30 cents' worth of carefully collected discount points seem rather meaningless... Getting into the fridge to scrounge some lunch and seeing my bread has mold... I know there are positives - I was able to cut the mold off the bread, at least I can afford the gasoline despite the price jump, my quilting is really a joy... and I will no doubt feel better when the home repair stuff is done and I can take a nap, whatever day I get to, and regroup yet again. It's just that sometimes it grinds me down, the setbacks and the regroupings, it's confusing and wearying. I daresay that's one reason why it's so hard to overcome hoarding. I think I'll be more cheerful later, and I'm not completely down in the dumps, just kinda blah at the moment. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 05 April 2017 - 11:34 AM |
Good Morning Everyone 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 Planning to do some inside the house cleaning today. TTYL 😉 | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 05 April 2017 - 09:12 AM |
LR!!!! HELLOOOOOOO! Missing you and glad to hear from you! Cm, glad your home situation is getting sorted out--how terrible to have house repairs and the resulting tumult. Good for you to get some things done wtbstoatahe space! Tillie I'll take a piece out of next batch of laundry from mom's for the little kitty. Good idea. I actually have a lot of her laundry here but I'll work with something recently worn. I forgot about the fire ants! But I see they have not forgotten about you. Pain, it is so hard to be a teenaged girl and she is certainly going through more than her fair share of upset and grief. It is a long life and your bond will have times where it is tested and times where it is strengthened. Hello Anony! I hope you have a good day! | |
| Tillie | Posted: 04 April 2017 - 06:32 PM |
Hello Everyone 🙂 HI LR!!! 😀 Hi CriticalMass 🙂 Been doing lots of odds & ends here today. TTYS 🙂 | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 04 April 2017 - 12:05 PM |
Hi, LR2014 - good to hear from any we haven't in awhile. Tatoulia, glad your mom's home and it sounds like it's going pretty well. Poor kitty, they do get distressed and they let us know about it. Cats here have had to be closed in the back room, and of course the commotion of power tools and banging noises is no fun for any of us. We'll all be discombobulated till we get back to our "normal" routines, such as they are. The new water heater is in and the heater temporarily capped off. Gas company man came out to inspect and we passed. Our repair guy is going to do some more on the heater and also a storm door. It's chilly rainy today again after yesterday's nice sunny afternoon. I hope there's no street flooding where I need to go later. Yesterday was payday so once the repairs were underway I went to pay bills. One was the storage rent so I went into the unit to do a little bit. Inspired by Porter I grabbed my printer so I can scan photos. Also got rid of 2 more yucky old cardboard boxes and some junky bits and pieces from here and there. Yeah, cable isn't in our budget here either but we don't miss it. We have antenna, Roku, and Netflix. I saw there's a mobile app for Android that lets you control Roku from your mobile device. My tablet is full (I'm a hoarder of data like everything else, LOL), but my roommate downloaded it. Works better than the little Roku remote. We're just getting acquainted with all the Roku selection. Porter, wow, what a lot of changes for you but you sound like a man with a plan. Hard to be apart from your daughter I'm sure but hopefully you'll get to see each other often enough to not drift apart. Even though the teen years and your wife's illness make it difficult for both of you, I wish you a good father daughter bond. In the times when my living situation has been so uncertain, I had thoughts of living in an RV. But since I am female there are some added safety concerns, and I'm not sure I'm emotionally strong enough to cope with them and with the downside of life off the beaten path. But I sure wish you all the success in the world with it. It sounds like a good fit for your problem solving, self motivated personality. | |
| LR2014 | Posted: 03 April 2017 - 10:52 PM |
Hi Tillie, Tatoulia, CM, Anonymoniker, and others I might know who are still posting! No, I didn't really fall off the face of the earth. Sorry to have been out of communication for so long. Been really busy with farm stuff for a while, for one thing. Haven't gotten much decluttering done the past few months. My vehicle is still a mess. I'm hoping to get some work done on it tomorrow. On the topic of cats . . . I see that a stray black cat has adopted a section of the farm as its new home. Don't know if it's someone's pet (don't think so) or if it just wandered in from the wild. Hmmm . . . Don't have much to say, but I wanted to say something! Like . . . hi! Great to see so many people posting! | |
| Tillie | Posted: 03 April 2017 - 10:36 PM |
Tatoulia 🙂 What I am suggesting is that you bring something with your Mom's scent on it when you do have to bring kitty to your house. 😉 | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 03 April 2017 - 10:21 PM |
Thank you for the kind words, Tillie. Mom's physical therapist was at the apt today and was pleased with the new lower bedframe and the other changes I'd made. I'd even attached the bed rail correctly! She was very happy. Mom came home at 2 and I stopped by for a brief visit--her occupational therapist was there to go over how to get in and out of bed. I'd brought a cup of BF's coffee (she loves his coffee) and a piece of pound cake and a banana for her. I'd also brought the cat for a visit. I put mom in bed for a short nap and came back at dinner time. Her aide was taking her for dinner and I did a little clean up and took the cat back. Taking the cat for a visit ended up not so great--kitty (who is normally silent other than purrs) kept yowling and pacing and sniffing once she got back to my house. YUP she was missing my mom. She carried on for an unusually long time. She'd pull it together for a few minutes then would start up again. She's been such a good girl that I didn't realize how much she's been missing her. So I won't bring the cat for another visit, I'll just work with mom to get kitty home by Sunday. I pointed out to mom what needs to be done to make room for kitty--just one bin to go through. She was very happy about that. I know the PT and OT want me to keep cat indefinitely but I can't have my mom lonely she needs her little buddy. And now we can see how much the little one needs HER mom. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 03 April 2017 - 08:11 PM |
Hi 🙂 Hi Joan 🙂 Hi CriticalMass 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 Hi Porter 🙂 Cats & I got up early and went outside and did lots of work. | |
| Porter | Posted: 03 April 2017 - 02:09 PM |
Hoping you are well Joan. I had a knock on the door . I'm doing better with the feelings of grief. When my wife said she wants to go to hospice, and my daughter with her rich aunt. Daughter is 14 and may choose whom she lives with at this age. It felt like grief . So , I'm looking at both apartments. But also a sail boat. Not a new or fancy one. Just one I can tow easily that has an internal toilet and pump out. One i can stay on lake for summer. And another I can park next to an outlet in a mobile park. Or camp ground. I'm looking at 30yo range, 26ft. Something I could easily resell for the price I pay. I'm also looking at storage facilities that can house both a boat and a storage unit. Close to a lake. I don't know if I can do it because I would eventually try to let go of most of my hoard. Then a hunting and fishing life sounds great to me. So my masterplan is to be happy. My wife is leaving me zero Insurance. I've four people in my lifetime. Visit me on my last boat, and say it was best week of their lives. I gave it all up when my wife became Ill. Without her,and without my daughter. I'd like to go back to where I feel I'm at home. And that's what a boat feels like to me. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 03 April 2017 - 09:28 AM |
Hello everyone! Good morning! Joan, I cut the cable cord five years ago. I have roku and subscribe to Netflix and Hulu. They are each $8 a month. I have Amazon prime, which I believe is $90 a year--that gives me free shipping, access to shows including amazon's exclusive shows, and music. I enjoy all three but could easily cut down to just two services and be happy. CM-I am so, so sorry about the set backs. The financial stress and now the worry over housemate's mother. Very difficult all around. And I know what you mean--it is a big setback. Try not to lose hope and do what you can. I am so grateful you were safe. Tillie my dear. I can count on you to tell me to rest. Saturday was very restorative and then in the evening I worked on mom's place. Yesterday I saw brother then BF and I did some relaxing and in the evening we finished mom's apt. Very pleased. Fingers crossed she comes home today and is reasonably happy with state of apt. I need to not take it personally if she's upset. She's been in hospital for six weeks now and her protective cocoon layer of sh@t has been removed by me. Porter, enjoy your time at the movies! Anony, how did your weekend go? | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 03 April 2017 - 08:51 AM |
Hi, Well, things were starting to jell, then a new crisis happened. My roommate and I smelled gas yesterday - each of us separately so we knew that was no coincidence. We called the gas company. Long story short, new water heater to be installed today and work to be done on the furnace as well. I felt so bad for her because her finances have taken several big hits and now this. Then I went out to get some supper and when I came back she had been on the phone with her sister and learned her elderly mom is in the hospital, something that could be minor or serious, they don't know yet. I'm going to keep the faith, but these sorts of things just seem to pile on and get pretty discouraging. 🙁 Hope you all are doing okay in your own situations. Glad as always that we're here for one another. | |
| Porter | Posted: 02 April 2017 - 03:48 PM |
I'm gonna see rogue one Monday night. | |
| Joan | Posted: 02 April 2017 - 01:53 PM |
Tillie, yes, Alone is on the History Channel. I think you can get it online, but I don't know exactly how. I have the most basic cable service I can get. I need the TV every day, because of my neurological condition. I surrendered to cable back in 2014, when the cable companies got the VCR companires to rig the VCRs so they wouldn't work any more with over-the-air TV. We need help with getting the technology to work for people. I am waiting for more developments. Some of my friends have Roku or Amazon firestick, both much more economical than cable. For now I am still subscribed to basic cable. The music channels on it are very good. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 02 April 2017 - 11:21 AM |
Good Morning Everyone 🙂 Hi CriticalMass 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 Hi Joan 🙂 Hi Porter 🙂 Cold & cloudy this morning. | |
| Porter | Posted: 02 April 2017 - 07:01 AM |
Going to the gym this morning before everyone gets up. No one likes eating slugs , and mice, tadpoles unless they are starving. But it's a survival challenge , no matter what's going on in your families lives if they are not able to disconnect and stay in routine they will dwell on them. I've had my family turn their backs on me when I needed them most when I was 18 . Now 30 years later I just don't want to hoard anymore. Well I'm going on and on . I hope you all have a good day. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 01 April 2017 - 09:49 PM |
Hi, me again. Just wanted to say I enjoyed Rogue One. The beginning seemed confusing and a bit draggy; I realize how much at home I depend on subtitles because I don't always catch the dialogue. With all the new characters and planets and goings-on I was muddled. Then they blew up something and it was off and running Star Wars and great fun. Porter, I copy pasted the link and it worked. Your house looks nice. I like the arch doorway, my grandma's house has those. It looks very clean, light, and inviting. 🙂 I did actually do one small productive decluttering thing today. I sorted and neatened a bag of fabric that was sitting in the family room. I had taken some from my quilting cottons and some other types of fabric that I thought I was going to have time to make Barbie clothes with to sell. I don't have time now, so the fabric will be returned to the tubs it came from till I'm truly ready to use it. That's about it for my day - from space opera to sewing, and now to bed. | |
| Porter | Posted: 01 April 2017 - 05:41 PM |
[IMG]http://i68.tinypic.com/9qwhv6.jpg[/IMG] I'm just seeing if posting a pick of my view from living room into my dinning room will post. | |
| Joan | Posted: 01 April 2017 - 04:50 PM |
Hi everyone. Just wwnted to say "Hi". Cannot post much because of my health issues. Things are improving, but I have to stay focused every day on just getting through. CM, movies are surging now, making a real comeback. I used to love movies. The best ones are few and far between. I watch a lot of TV because it is helpful to stay quiet and by myself, to minimize discomfort from my movement disorder. Last night I thought of you, Porter, as I watched the finale of the last season of "Alone". You probably wouldn't be accepted by the show unless you were very stable emotionally. It would be too much to handle. On the Patagonia series, two contestants were pulled for losing a dangerous amount of weight. One was a semi-finalist, one of the last two people left. Tillie and Tat, love hearing aboit your cat times. I have been too unwell to have any pets for years, not even a goldfish. I visit a friend who has a cat. Her cat and I have stare-downs when I go over there. Enjoy the coming spring, everyone. | |