| Tillie | Posted: 09 December 2016 - 09:56 AM |
Good morning everybody ๐ Great to read your posts on phase five! ๐ WAY TO GO!!! Everybody on every accomplishment, especially the little ones that really do add up and help make your homes the sanctuary of your dreams. | |
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| Anonymoniker | Posted: 13 January 2017 - 10:55 PM |
Tatoulia, Thank you! Im actually celebrating my annoying loose tooth FINALLY coming out the other night!!! CHEWING!!! YEA!!! ha ha Im going out to my favorite fancy restaurant tomorrow night & a raw vegan buffet next week!!! I dont have Netflix but i watched 'Batman Begins'again, one of my most all time favorite movies of all time!!! It hits home on so many personal levels! I need to work out stuff to start on the greenhouse...it seems to make the most sense at this point...symbolically, in many ways... ~โโกโ~โโกโ~โโกโ~โโกโ~โโกโ~โโกโ~ Love to all!!!~โกโโก~โโกโ~โโกโ~โโกโ~โโกโ~ | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 13 January 2017 - 07:35 PM |
Hello everyone! Home from work and making dinner. Brought mom a few nice meals and some fresh fruit - dropped off on my way home. Anony, first and foremost--we need to celebrate that you have gotten rid of so much stuff that you can move on to a new phase! That is fantastic! Go you! Please take good. Are of yourself this weekend and please put a limit on any crying jags. If you have Netflix maybe watch a movie? Cm I'm sorry the car isn't fixed and that it's such a frustrating mess of missed connections and misunderstandings. I am so sorry. This must be just so aggravating. You need to take care of yourself! Tillie, we had snow last weekend but so powdery and light. It's long gone after two 50F days this week. I heard that my plumber is coming on Monday and I've been asked to have a little patience. I was only aggravated that one day and feel fine now. I'm relaxing with kitty and dinner should be done soon. Hope to report on some progress. Thank you for the dishes advice. Might as well use the non-chipped ones! | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 13 January 2017 - 06:36 PM |
Well, got one part of the confusion sorted with the mechanic. Way too long a story to go into. He's had his own crises so the last repair will have to wait just a while longer. Right now we're supposedly in for a weekend of ice storm, though. Yuck. But I've done all the preparation I can do, just have to ride it out now. My hope is that I won't need to drive anyway till it melts. I plan to just decompress from the stress this weekend. If the decluttering mood strikes, great. If not, naps at this point will help me regain a little sanity and let go of the tension and anxiety. Had another of my infamous vivid detailed dreams about a giant flea market type event. Exhausting. That's why I like naps - if I don't sleep over 3 hours, I don't go into REM sleep and I don't dream. I wake feeling so much more rested when my mind hasn't been going 90 mph! | |
| Anonymoniker | Posted: 13 January 2017 - 02:12 PM |
Hi all! Im thoroughly confused & stuck. Im actually not needing to throw out stuff anymore, as much as needing to clean & repair & redo things. Ive been hit with on-my-own-ness strong from 3 sides & for now i need to create some stability in my life. I think the answer for now to bring that comfort is to get a greenhouse & plant food! ....even that has challenges that i wish were simple..... | |
| Tillie | Posted: 13 January 2017 - 10:23 AM |
Good Morning Everyone ๐ Hi CriticalMass ๐ Hi Tatoulia ๐ Snowed ALL day yesterday. Finally stopped at sundown. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 12 January 2017 - 11:58 PM |
Tatoulia, I vote for going ahead and letting go of the dishes that are chipped. The reasoning being that when we clear out the stuff that's no longer really working or that we don't really love anymore, we make room for something new to come in. I believe it's God's way of getting us to surrender and trust - some folks have other interpretations but the point is that if the space is already taken, the new can't come in yet. Tillie, you're right about too many storage containers too soon. I get tempted to get them, and occasionally I succumb and get one or two, but in general I'm holding off. Having limited funds helps with that! And when more stuff is gone I'd like to aim for a fairly uniform system of like containers and shelving, which is easier to coordinate if I wait and do it when I know what I'll need and how it will be arranged. Buying containers piecemeal just perpetuates confusion and disarray. Had another day of delay re the mechanic and the check - and it had sure looked promising at one point, then it fell apart - and so did I. It's too crazy to explain. My unreliable memory played a part, but then it's hard to keep track of things with all the delays thus far. Even a person with a better memory than mine would find it difficult, I think. Right now I can only wait and see. I just wish we didn't have an ice storm predicted. That's going to multiply the complications of the weekend and I sure do pray we don't have a power outage. Sigh. The storm is due tomorrow evening. We've gone to the store and all that. A few things to do earlier in the day, then we wait and see what comes. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 12 January 2017 - 09:15 PM |
Why not get rid of the chipped ones? Why should I eat off of chipped plates? No reason at all. I vacuumed and shredded some more. Time to gather up the garbage for tomorrow's pickup. Thanks everyone. I just need to keep posting. It's the best thing for me. Helps me move toward my vision. Oh! I should re visit my picture later!! It will help remind me of what I am striving for. I bet there isn't a chipped dish in sight. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 12 January 2017 - 08:20 PM |
Mainly shredding and cleaning tonight. Went through books again with very little progress. I got two diary volumes shredded. I'm not discouraged re the books because I had gotten rid of so many a few years back. I have been impressed with my letting go of treasured books this go round but I've reached my limit on it for now. I did up all the dishes and polished some silver. I am trying to decide what to do about my dishes, and I think Tillie you could help me here. I would guess my everyday dishes are about 19 years old now. They were expensive, which is why they've held up so well. However, now several of the plates are chipped. I think it's service for 8, and I haven't had a dinner party in many, many years. I'm not ready to just get rid of these and buy new dishes. I'd rather wait til I find some dishes I really like. Do I: keep using all the dishes or dispose of the chipped ones now? Thank you. I need this decision made for me. I don't feel strongly one way or the other. I just need advice. If I were to have a dinner party now, I'd probably use my mother's china or if it were Christmas, I'd use my Johnson Bros Christmas dishes. My dresser has been cluttered for several months so I'm working on that tonight too. Do little bits here and there tonight. Going to quick vacuum before too late. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 12 January 2017 - 01:16 PM |
Bag of books in car. Need to fill another bag tonight. Of anything/doesn't need to be books. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 12 January 2017 - 11:38 AM |
Tillie, i can picture you watching the snow and enjoying a cup of tea!! Very nice image. I am going to take some donations up to the car now. I have to go to the car and one day of having a few bags in car won't be a bother to the friend who uses it to drive her son to the bus stop. I'll write more later. Thank you for the continual encouragement everyone. Tillie I keep repeating 30% to remind myself! I'm so pleased with my decisions these days. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 12 January 2017 - 11:25 AM |
Good Morning ๐ Hi Tatoulia ๐ Yes, it was me who said not to run out and buy any sort of storage/organization containers. Buying padded dish storage organizers to keep precious dishes safe on the closet shelf is the right thing to do now Tatoulia. Snowing pretty good this morning. TTYS ๐ | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 12 January 2017 - 09:34 AM |
Hello! Another warm day here. Beautiful. Working from home so I have the windows open. What a treat. I put some of the plates in the soft sided containers and it is a perfect set up. They will still be on the same shelves in closet but it looks neater and safer. I must go work now and push toward a 30% reduction as both Saturday and Sunday are good days to get bags to the donation center! Will report later! So, what are you doing today??!!?? | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 11 January 2017 - 11:06 PM |
Congratulations CM!!! So happy for you--you got out, you cleared your space of yarn & everyone benefitted! Also, congrats on winning the Internet! I am so sorry about your car situation--cabin fever is no good! My situation hasn't changed re the sink but I'm good with it. We have other people to call if need be. Was 40F warmer here today than yesterday--what a joy. My walk was great and cured what aggravated me, I stopped by mom's with some bread and played with the tiny cat (who has been eating well and looking well since our scare last summer when she was under five pounds). Then came back here to work. I have my windows open and it's cool and nice. I ordered some of those soft vinyl padded things to store dishes (like what our grandparents used) because I think I can better store mom's china (which I love and will use on holidays) in them. I have had mom's china in my dining room closet since I cleared out a lot of the books on the dining room closet shelves. I remember once Tillie or someone else suggesting not to get too many storage things unless you need them. I think these are a good idea. They arrived today. Time will tell. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 11 January 2017 - 08:27 PM |
Hi CriticalMass ๐ | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 11 January 2017 - 06:08 PM |
Good evening Tatoulia, you have a frustrating situation with your plumber, I have one with my mechanic and that whole situation of trying to get repairs on my vehicle! I feel your pain! Hoping we both get resolution very soon. Was someone mentioning Internet addiction awhile back? Because I finally had to force myself to log off the computer - it was running slowly no doubt due to all the uncleared caches and besides it's a 7-year-old computer (and I pray it keeps chugging along because I can't afford a new one!). Anyway, Internet addiction - okay, I have my ADD brain and my mind is always chasing squirrels - but I think this cabin fever made it worse, because I tend to sit here while waiting for the phone calls that might mean something will happen with the auto repairs or something. So I counted - I had 3 windows open, with 12, 12, and 13 browser tabs respectively for a grand total of 37! I WIN!!! LOL!!! Nothing happened today re the van, either - the check still hadn't reached him, and he was busy on another job and apparently didn't have time to squeeze me in. Maybe tomorrow. But one really good set of things happened, and that was that my roommate felt well enough to want to go to lunch, and on the way I got my prescriptions at the drugstore and dropped off those two big boxes of yarn I mentioned way back when at a church. They were really happy to get them and I am really happy to get about 6-8 cubic feet of stuff gone to someone who will put it to good use! They make prayer shawls and hats for the homeless and baby blankets etc. I still have the yarn I really loved and am knitting and crocheting my own stuff to donate to charities - but this way I don't have to feel as overwhelmed and pushed to get it done. And I don't have to "feel sorry for" the yarn I don't really like and keep it around out of pity. Yes, I do that - no, I did do that. Past tense. I am not doing it anymore! Justin Case can find some other sucker! HAHAHA!! | |
| Tillie | Posted: 11 January 2017 - 03:53 PM |
Hi Tatoulia ๐ I also do physical work when I need to "walk it off". | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 11 January 2017 - 01:37 PM |
Tillie I'm trying not to be frustrated with the plumber. I just got aggravated over the situation only to realize that being aggravated isn't good for me. So I'm going for a walk instead. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 11 January 2017 - 10:36 AM |
Good Morning Everyone ๐ Hi Tatoulia ๐ Rained & rained and rained all last night. TTFN ;D | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 11 January 2017 - 10:07 AM |
Hi Tillie! Glad you have the oranges and cat food! I still don't have a bathroom sink. I've stopped noticing it. I really need some resolution to this. But in the meantime, I'll work toward my 30% reduction. Will report back later. Just wanted to check in. Anony--keep your chin up. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 10 January 2017 - 06:30 PM |
HI Everybody ๐ Hi Tatoulia ๐ Hi CriticalMass ๐ Went into town this morning. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 10 January 2017 - 05:03 PM |
Hi everyone Tatoulia, way to go with the 30%! It's a nice tangible way to mark progress, I bet. And good call on going ahead and taking the one bag - now it's out of your life and you don't have to worry about it at all. Anonymoniker, I can relate to having various "skeletons in the closet" and how tricky it can be sometimes to know in your heart that you have left the past behind but maybe others don't believe you. I'm fortunate in that most people who saw me at my worst aren't in my current circle. The very few who are have been loyal and witnessed my growth process and in some cases I've been able to explain how I went off the rails and that I've learned from my mistakes. Hoping you will find positive people who acknowledge your sincerity in the here and now. Well, as for my decluttering progress, it's been a bit stalled out lately. I'm still waiting on my shock absorbers. I might get them tomorrow. There was also a mixup on whether the assistance check from my church had been sent to my mechanic - it hadn't. The lady from the help ministry called today and was apologetic. Supposedly the check went out today. At least the mystery is solved of why day after day went by and he didn't receive it. My roommate has been very sick with a respiratory bug. I put her on the prayer line yesterday and she is doing better today. Our weather here has been widely varied which makes it hard to recover from stuff like that. Today it's springlike, 67 degrees, but freezing rain is predicted for the weekend. Looks like the winter is just going to be crazy for awhile. Mentally all this confusion and uncertainty has been taking its toll on me. Today is better but yesterday I felt discouraged and at loose ends. I sure hope some of life's loose ends will get tied up - that would free up a great deal of mental energy and I'd feel like I could make at least some forward progress. In which area of life would depend on the money and weather - if I had favorable finances and weather I could work on decluttering my storage unit. If not, I could focus on projects at home. Seems like right now mostly what I do is wait - to hear from the mechanic or the church people - and then see what I end up with the money, time, etc. to attempt. A frustrating way to live for days and weeks on end. Hoping after the rocky start the week goes better. ๐ | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 09 January 2017 - 08:04 PM |
Tillie I'm sorry about the flooding threat. Here it is bitterly cold. You are so good to the kitties. And us. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 09 January 2017 - 06:49 PM |
HI ๐ Hi Anonymoniker ๐ Hi Tatoulia ๐ Busy morning. TTFN ๐ | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 09 January 2017 - 06:08 PM |
Hello I'm back--sitting in my terry bathrobe with the hood. Ok, I got rid of my DVD player since I haven't used it in an age. I put it in recycle bin. I don't have the remote and so I junked it. I have put the two coats in a bag to ge donated so no turning back now. I got the garbage out--long week if I miss the early Tuesday AM pick up. It's very cold in Northeast. I either from home today but nothing more than maintenance--laundry, dishes. Cannot do anything if real substance because work eats up all my time. I continue to move forward and feel very good re 30% goal. Just gonna do it. Will shred papers a little later on. For now I want to do a few things before Antiques Roadshow. Anony: I am sorry to hear about the latest developments. I enjoyed the 'swept under the rug' remark. Look, I don't know if this guy is good for you or not good for you. but he's definitely not a good partner in dealing with your hoard. I personally don't like seeing you ping-ponged around by him. No matter what happens, he's the wrong person to help you with your hoard. Don't give up. Don't let anyone or anything thwart you in your efforts to clean up your home. No one has that power over you. The power is yours. | |
| Tatoulia. | Posted: 09 January 2017 - 05:15 PM |
Anony, we will talk later. I have to run garbage out and shower then watch national news. | |
| Anonymoniker | Posted: 09 January 2017 - 03:01 PM |
......and this i tried to sweep under the rug(ha ha a little hoarder humor), but it is really haunting me...my boyfriend broke up with me again a few nights ago, threw all my stuff at me to leave with, then text me he was sorry the next day....ive had bad dreams & felt insecure about everything & everyone since...it means i really can only depend on myself....i guess im that way anyway....part of me wants to cling to everything here & part of me wants to fix it up on my own! | |
| Anonymoniker | Posted: 08 January 2017 - 11:18 PM |
....yes, and he is an amazing worker, a creative home fixer upper& would be an incredible help....im just needing to shift things...my new years resolution is partly to let go of my birth family & rely only on myself....all else is a plus, but nothing expected or depended on.... | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 08 January 2017 - 06:57 PM |
Relationships & hoards are tricky business. Just keep working toward a balance. | |
| Anonymoniker | Posted: 08 January 2017 - 03:32 PM |
Tatoulia, thank you for your response! Actually, i did realize within a few minutes that i was wrong. I think it was what happened just before that was why i reacted. As we were driving toward my gate, he said hed like to fill in the holes using the dirt along the edge of the dirt road. I told him there is an irrigation ditch there & it needs to be built up like that. Also, this is not my property, nor my legal easement & there is no way im gonna allow messing with my farmer neighbor's place! Then the next thing he did was mess with my place without asking me. I felt like it was at least partly an act of rebellion....but it was just a piece of cardboard, however, i do not like to bury trash. Had he asked me, idve prefered it in the trash pile to go to the dump...but then, maybe burying it is better? Id planned to burn it. Im very unsure of everything right now, but i still feel it is no one's right to mess with another's stuff or property. | |
| Anonymoniker | Posted: 08 January 2017 - 03:31 PM |
Tatoulia, thank you for your response! Actually, i did realize within a few minutes that i was wrong. I think it was what happened just before that was why i reacted. As we were driving toward my gate, he said hed like to fill in the holes using the dirt along the edge of the dirt road. I told him there is an irrigation ditch there & it needs to be built up like that. Also, this is not my property, nor my legal easement & there is no way im gonna allow messing with my farmer neighbor's place! Then the next thing he did was mess with my place without asking me. I felt like it was at least partly an act of rebellion....but it was just a piece of cardboard, however, i do not like to bury trash. Had he asked me, idve prefered it in the trash pile to go to the dump...but then, maybe burying it is better? Id planned to burn it. Im very unsure of everything right now, but i still feel it is no one's right to mess with another's stuff or property. | |