| Nicole Henderson | Posted: 13 June 2012 - 09:28 PM |
Hello! I have always been interested in why some people seem to have OCD while others are hoarders, or a mix of both, or neither. My goal on this message board is to reach out to others and help them in any way I can, and maybe ask some questions (if that's alright!) about how hoarding affects your life. (It probably won't be used in my presentation, I'm just curious myself.) Um... I think that's it. I will try to check this thread daily, if not multiple times during the week, and all correspondence will take place in this thread so that it's all easy to access for me in the future. Please don't hesitate to talk to me, I won't bite, I promise. All results will be confidential in the final presentation, and nobody needs to tell me more than what they are comfortable with. | |
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| Nicole Henderson | Posted: 23 September 2012 - 09:32 PM |
Bumping this thread up again! | |
| Nicole Henderson | Posted: 22 August 2012 - 10:29 PM |
Ali- Oh my goodness, I am so, so sorry for the wait! I had internet connection problems for a while and then my family went on a camping trip and gave me a twelve hour notice ahead of time. My email address is nicoleeolee @ live . com. My high school does not provide us with emails but I am perfectly okay with emailing you on this account. : ) I'm eagerly awaiting a response from you! - Nicole | |
| Ali | Posted: 18 August 2012 - 11:54 PM |
Nicole: Hello again. Thanks so much for your reply. Sounds great., intriguing even. : } Resistant to sharing my info, in such public forums as this one, could you make your info available to me, so that I may reach you? My hope is that this will allow us to communicate beyond this forum. What's more, and as a thought, providing me with your email address at school (for example) might be perfect. This is especially the case, since it'll likely be terminated after you graduate--providing you with a solid means of more greatly assuring your personal privacy. Sincerely yours, | |
| Nicole Henderson | Posted: 04 August 2012 - 11:39 PM |
Ali: Haha, that's perfectly alright! Preferably, I'm hoping that I can help in some way, whether it be in a major way or just in a minor way. The consultants for this senior project are looking to see if I can prove that I have dedicated my time to helping others and that is what I intend to do. The minimum amount of 'volunteer work' I have to present is 15 hours, which I could probably accumulate in the span of three months if I take into consideration how often I read, visit, and correspond with others in this thread. However, I am fully prepared to go above and beyond the minimum if it means I can better help somebody, such as yourself. 🙂 I'm hoping for it to be either on this forum or, if that makes you uncomfortable, over email, if you would give your permission for me to use screencaps of it in my final presentation. I wouldn't use your real name, email, or any other incriminating information, and all it would be in is a slideshow that only a handful of adults will see during my final presentation. I hope this answered your questions! | |
| Ali | Posted: 31 July 2012 - 02:44 AM |
Nicole: Wow! I'm just now re-reading your initial post. For some reason, I completely took your message out-of-context. To this end, I apologize for any confusion, etc., that my longwinded post(s) may have created, for you or anyone else. While I'm still interested in participating, I'm curious to know specifically, just how your participants--the users of this forum, such as myself--will benefit from our involvement? And, specifically, what would that look like? Also, over what period of time do you foresee us engaging in this online dialogue? Again, I eagerly await your reply on this most sensitive, challenging, and urgent matter. A position each of us on this forum find ourselves, I'm (pretty) sure. Sincerely yours, | |
| Ali | Posted: 31 July 2012 - 02:17 AM |
Nicole: Hello again. I appreciate your timely reply. With that said, how do you propose we connect? Is there a way that we can share our contact info privately? If so, I'd love to exercise this option, if you don't mind. I eagerly await to hear back from you. Thank you, in advance. Gratefully yours, | |
| Nicole Henderson | Posted: 30 July 2012 - 07:57 PM |
Hello, Ali! I would love to be of assistance to you, and you certainly haven't scared me off! | |
| Ali | Posted: 22 July 2012 - 02:22 AM |
Nicole: Hello there and how are you? I truly am so excited to know that you take such interest in such a deeply personal struggle for those of us who live with this derivational challenge. There certainly is a need for more professional clinicians who can work with this often under-served population, to better assist the many faces of those impacted--whether directly and/or indirectly. I would love to receive any assistance you are able to provide! And I, in-turn, am happy to assist you in your remaining coursework and related endeavors for school. Also, as information, for as long as I can recall, I have been challenged all of my life, with this embarrassing somewhat-of-a secret. Living "in the closet" with the state of my home has truly weighed on me, as well as on my loved ones (for the few that know), and has been very scarring in numerous ways. : ( Living on a modest, fixed income, due to being on "Disability," I have been officially diagnosed with the following: * Bi-polar Disorder, (with Deep Clinical Depression, when depressed) Desperate for another way of living, feeling, and interacting with others, I gladly welcome any assistance I may receive and have access to! As I have remained ineffective in tackling this monumental problem, causing me to live a secret, double life, with a myriad of negatively complex impacts. Impacts that affect me, my loved ones, and those who I would love to include as a part of my life--persons who exist in my past, present, and future (known and not yet known)--every day of my life! : / Please don't be put-off by my (perhaps.seemingly) intellectual presentation. The host of disabilities I live with are quite crippling. Disabilities that obviously get in the way of my daily functioning, even moment-to-moment, and ultimately my quality of life. What's more, being almost always misunderstood and my difficulty in managing my life doubted, my presentation often creates a major impediment in my receiving the services I so desperately need. "Why?," one may ask. Well, because I sound so darn good. However, beyond this ?cover,' most everyone would be SHOCKED at just how out-of-control my situation and my life really are!! Ultimately, I constantly struggle, and am crumbling under the weight of my dysfunctional life! : [ Eager to connect with you, please advise me as to how I/we may do so. Especially if the magnitude of my challenges don't overwhelm and/or scare you off. [b]PLEASE HELP!!! I am beyond drowning!!! :' { Gratefully yours, | |
| Ali | Posted: 22 July 2012 - 02:10 AM |
Nicole: Hello there and how are you? I truly am so excited to know that you take such interest in such a deeply personal struggle for those of us who live with this derivational challenge. There certainly is a need for more professional clinicians who can work with this often under-served population, to better assist the many faces of those impacted--whether directly and/or indirectly. I would love to receive any assistance you are able to provide! And I, in-turn, am happy to assist you in your remaining coursework and related endeavors for school. Also, as information, for as long as I can recall, I have been challenged all of my life, with this embarrassing somewhat-of-a secret. Living "in the closet" with the state of my home has truly weighed on me, as well as on my loved ones (for the few that know), and has been very scarring in numerous ways. : ( Living on a modest, fixed income, due to being on "Disability," I have been officially diagnosed with the following: * Bi-polar Disorder, (with Deep Clinical Depression, when depressed) Desperate for another way of living, feeling, and interacting with others, I gladly welcome any assistance I may receive and have access to! As I have remained ineffective in tackling this monumental problem, causing me to live a secret, double life, with a myriad of negatively complex impacts. Impacts that affect me, my loved ones, and those who I would love to include as a part of my life--persons who exist in my past, present, and future (known and not yet known)--every day of my life! : / Please don't be put-off by my (perhaps...seemingly) intellectual presentation. The host of disabilities I live with are quite crippling. Disabilities that obviously get in the way of my daily functioning, even moment-to-moment, and ultimately my quality of life. What's more, being almost always misunderstood and my difficulty in managing my life doubted, my presentation often creates a major impediment in my receiving the services I so desperately need. "Why?," one may ask. Well, because I sound so darn good. However, beyond this ?cover,' most everyone would be SHOCKED at just how out-of-control my situation and my life really are!! Ultimately, I constantly struggle, and am crumbling under the weight of my dysfunctional life! : [ Eager to connect with you, please advise me as to how I/we may do so. Especially if the magnitude of my challenges don't overwhelm and/or scare you off. PLEASE HELP!!! I am beyond drowning!!! :' { Gratefully yours, | |
| Nicole Henderson | Posted: 17 July 2012 - 05:04 PM |
First of all, I am so sorry for my absence, I was without a computer for a while. @Pat, I would love to help you! @Amanda, I will message you shortly via Skype. Could I have your permission to use some information from our chats for my presentation later this year regarding what we've talked about? Of course it will only be what you allow me to use and I can give you an alias if you would like. @Shannon, I do, as a matter of fact! I was cleaning out my bedroom a few days ago and it's very cluttered with boxes since we recently moved houses. What I did was make piles- things I absolutely cannot live without, things I wouldn't mind putting away/giving away, and things I don't care for anymore. I'm not a hoarder myself but even that was hard for me to get rid of some childhood things that I remember cherishing that just no longer appeal to me! Another thing to do is remind yourself that your clutter does not define you. I think that before you clean up the physical mess, you have to work on the inside mess. I'm sorry if that seems very personal but it was my thesis in my essay and I strongly stand by it. Fixing the symptoms does not fix the entire problem. (Also, if anybody would like to see my essay out of curiosity or whatever, let me know and I'll link it here. I'm pretty proud of it myself! :)) Sorting through real trash (expired coupons, out-dated newspapers, etc) and throwing that away is also a good first step if any of that is lying around. | |
| shannon | Posted: 10 July 2012 - 10:43 PM |
what tips can you offer i would love to here some ? i would love to find ways to keep organized but all my attempts fail... | |
| Amanda | Posted: 06 July 2012 - 12:10 AM |
Hello Nicole, thank you for your kind gesture. I am very private so if I may add you on Skype first, that would be best for me. My skype is HBK-0105 | |
| PatB | Posted: 05 July 2012 - 12:37 PM |
hello nicole. my name is patty bennett, And i am a major clutterer. i have boxes and boxes of storage and other miscellenaeous items. now that my family is dead it is Impossible to oart ways with such items. i don't want to turn into a hoarder and am Currently here to get somet ips on how to manage my cluttering problem. if You wouldnt min helping me on this forum i would Be greatful. i do not have email or a computer and must travel to the local library to do anything reguarding the Internet. - patty B | |
| Nicole Henderson | Posted: 28 June 2012 - 08:15 PM |
Hi Anne! I'll email you shortly. For the record, I cannot give much help, only 'moral support' and a few tips here and there for coping, etc. I'm definitely not licensed or anything but I believe that even just being there for somebody can make a huge difference. | |
| Anne | Posted: 24 June 2012 - 08:11 PM |
Nicole, what sort of help are you offering? | |
| Nicole Lowe | Posted: 19 June 2012 - 08:14 AM |
Hey guys, just bumping the thread up. 🙂 | |