Repair man got here at 8:00, will be here til about 3:00.

Staying calm but stress is right on edge.

Hi Kindred Spirit,

take good care ~~ Dianne

I am struggling with sewer gas because of being on septic so am doing laundry to get some water flushing the system. I am seeking some help from this board participants ....like a sounding board! I have found someone on the list of national resources who does serve my community. I am finding my self flipping between trusting them to clear my space and feeling like I need to get healthier and do as much of my own work with help from friends. The service works for 8 hrs for three days.....I can barely tolerate 2 hrs with friends. How long do we give ourselves to do the work? When is it better to let go and ask for help from professionals? Your thoughts and experiences will be appreciated.

Thank you so much Tillie. {{{hugs}}}

I just have to get thru this.

Dianne,
I want you to have a working A/C so please just do it. 🙂
(((hugs))) to help you stay strong and not cancel.

It is so much easier to work in a cool house.
Plus you sleep better at night.
You don't get heat exhaustion and sick and miserable.
More hugs (((hugs)))

Diane heal quickly! Too much crosstalk is why I don't do the chats anymore. A couple weeks ago you had asked me some questions about my animals and I was trying to focus on answering you while trying to follow the other conversations. Much easier for me on the boards.

Happy Mother's Day!

Hooray Tillie, so happy he did his part so you can relax in the cool. It has been hot here too, not that hot, 89 yesterday, and I was too hot, tomorrow it will be in 60's they say, hope so. see you at 5

Diane 🙁
What a horrible way to start your day.
Please heal fast! 🙁

I understand how dizzying trying to read so many posts posted so fast is.
Then while trying to read and catch up, the page keeps jumping up, or is it jumping down? 😉

Anyways...
He returned a while ago with the cooler pads and I am now sitting here with my evaporative cooler running! 😀
94 degrees outside. Inside a pleasant 76 degrees.

Fun reading all the posts on here, great to see so many people involved. I started my day pouring boiling water and coffee filter full of coffee and hot water on my arm and belly. Took over an hour of cold towels for the burn to settle down, then aloe vera. I have done little else today. Yesterday I did get some things done,I am looking forward to group tonight.

I have a request. Last Sunday when it was my turn with Cory, it was very distracting when so many people were trying to help. When it is my turn, I would appreciate just hearing from Tillie and a professional, if there is one online. I know I have spoken when it is anothers turn, and will hopefully not do that tonight, after finding it so disruptive with all the comments last week.

Dianne's story about the dog bed has motivated me.

Several months ago, I took several piles of stuff from the living room and moved them onto my bed for "temporary" storage, in anticipation of making enough space in the living room to have visitors. Since then I've been sleeping on a pad on the closet floor -- tolerable but a bit less comfortable.

Last night I moved the piles back to the living room, and finally reclaimed my bed. Progress in one room at the expense of another...

I still haven't put away the clean laundry; I think that'll be today's primary goal. If I can also go through at least one of those piles now in the living room, so much the better.

I won't be at tonight's online chat due to another commitment, but I'll probably be around on Tuesday.

I'm sorry, too, Karl. I don't recall your circumstances but I know that I never could have decluttered let alone cleaned without a lot of help, Do you have any money to hire help, or do you have people you could ask for help? And are you able to let others help?

One of my biggest area of clutter is that I recycle. However, I wasn't going to the recycling centers nearly enough. I had the helpers load my car up with all the bags I had ready to go. And I did recycle. Once they are in the car, I know I'll follow through. Is that sort of idea helpful?

Books and magazines can be donated to both our local library and to a thrift store. I load those into my car, too, so they are ready to go.

Today my own goal is to clear off my kitchen counters since the turmoil of getting new appliances in, plus do dishes/load the dishwasher. I haven't had a working dishwasher in 4-5 years so it takes some getting used to, the idea that I actually now have a working one!

Happy Mothers' Day to all.

Good morning 🙂

Sunday. Extremely quiet here. Even the cats are being quiet too. A few birds cheeping in the garden.

After spending over a week asking him to please remove the panels from the evaporative cooler for me so I could clean them and get the cooler up and running, he did remove them around 7:20pm last night.
It was still light out so I got busy scrubbing panels and washed out the inside of the unit.

Yearly the cooler pads need to be replaced. He said he would buy them today.
He has been gone over an hour and I probably won't see him again till late this afternoon.

Avoidance.

He goes to a lot of trouble to not have to deal with or think about his hoard.

Anyways...
Today I will tend to the cats. Think about menu ideas.
5:00pm PST is ONLINE SUPPORT GROUP
At 8:00pm PST I must watch the SURVIVOR finale. 😀

Everybody have a GREAT day today even if you are not a Mother. 🙂

I'm sorry Karl. 🙁

Doing the clean up all by yourself, using the 15 minute plan to keep from burning out and getting discouraged is for people who can take the time because they don't have any authorities breathing down their necks threatening them.

The TV program "HOARDERS" would always feature people who had a set deadline to get decluttered.
That is why they had a whole crew come in to do most all the physical labor.

Decluttering your own home all by yourself takes a very long time. Is physically, emotionally and mentally extremely hard work.
Looking at every item then having to make the decision to keep it or not, and if keeping it, where does it go?

Having even just one other trusted person there helping you stay focused gets the task done quicker.
They could help you declutter the average size hoarded livingroom in one week if they worked every day for 8 hours a day, taking regular breaks.

Is there anybody or any way you could hire a professional to help you do this?

Good luck and best wishes dealing with your landlords.

Inspection Day. The landlords came over, and of course my place was still cluttered. They weren't happy.

How long would it take a single person to clean up a living room, in 15-minute increments?

@ Dianne....the packages were the hardest too because I was putting small items in some of them that were requested or that she would have wanted someone to have. I still have to tackle the rest of the notes, but now that the packages are mailed...those should be much easier. Part of what made it so hard was her photo was on just about every paper that was going into the packages, so they were all over the place. But I'm still not quite "there" with the acceptance. It's still a shock, and so much to do (my parents couldn't handle it, and my mother had just finished chemo, so I was doing the funeral plans, and legal matters afterwards). At least now though (she passed last Oct), I am able to do the notes, and will be able to tackle the contents of her apt. (she was a long time hoarder) without getting too emotional.

For today's tasks/plans....I had to run a few errands and decided to take the time to see if I could fix an annoying ebrake alarm that was constantly going off. Success!! Felt so good about fixing the car, that I checked my list of things I needed to take with me tomorrow to visit my dad with my kids, and finished that as well. Time to relax now.

Hope everyone had a good day with their goals!

WAY TO GO! Susan 😀
Sounds like you had a very good day.
Happy Mother's Day to you. 😀

This morning was cleanup, laundry, dishes, grocery, then in the afternoon I had a rare hair appointment.

Why is it hard to justify taking care of ourselves, when we're so eager to take care of other creatures?

Dear husband showed me 5 videos that he suggested we give away, either to daughter coming for Mothers Day or to the library sale. Earlier I might have balked, wanting them for the 'collection' - of what? Things we already watched and won't watch again? So into the giveaway box they go.

Hope all are well and happy Mothers Day!

The morning was perfect, cool but not cold, warm but not hot, slight breeze.

He spent the time sitting in his filthy room playing games on his computer. 🙁
He has not been brushing his 2 cats enough and his room has lots of cat vomit everywhere due to the hair balls. 🙁

I had asked him about working out front of the house where he has some of his trucks parked.
Their tires are now flat and there are trees growing up through the engine compartments.
There is "stuff" tossed in the truck beds that the wasps find to be great places to build their nests. There is more "stuff" laying all around the area.

He said it is now too hot to work outside.
He is sitting in his floor to rafters hoarded garage now, playing computer games.

🙁

Hi Roxie 😀

How wonderful to have new appliances!
Get those counters cleared and the floor all clean so your kitchen will look beautiful again.

Nice thing about being in maintenance is that messes are easy to spot and don't take long to clean up.

Wishing you well and looking forward to hearing how it's been going for you. 🙂

Hi Roxie,

You're performing miracles. Take the day off and rest.

I think this is my first time posting in this area. Hi to all. I posted in the Success folder previously. I AM reading and I like "hearing" from all of you. I am post-cleanup and now working on recovery.

Setback for me is that having workers in post-cleanup to install appliances has messed things up and I find myself falling into old patterns. Put things down and leave them there rather than following the Only Handing It Once (OHIO) rule I was given. Having folks in and out has been exhausting for me.

I had to empty out my old useless dishwasher because it was just another storage place, in order for the new one to come in. Same with refrigerator. Now I have things spread out on the kitchen counter (which HAD been cleared) and the floor needs sweeping and mopping from all the tracking of things. Sigh.

I pushed myself to clean behind the dishwasher, stove and refrigerator (walls and floors) before new ones were installed. I exhausted myself. I need to get back to cleaning walls and ceiling. Push me, push me!

Wish me well, please, as I need recovery support.

Roxie

Dianne,
That is how people get in deeper & deeper by making do. Adjusting to things not working.
I had that same problem here with our septic system not functioning, he just got used to the stinky pond out in the side yard.

WTG! on having the stairs measured! 😀
Looking forward to hearing how the air conditioning repair went for you.

When a repairman asks questions that have nothing to do with the job he is there to do you do not have to answer him. What he was doing was just being nosy and rude. (((hugs)))
I know how it feels though. I have been subjected to that kind of treatment too. 🙁

It's Saturday.
I am sitting here waiting to see what he will do today, if anything.

This has been a rough week for me. Going against everything I am used to doing every day.
Hoping this new plan will work soon and get him motivated.

Anyways....
I have a rule for myself that whenever I get something new I must get rid of something that I already have.
One in, one out.
Went through my stuff and have been successful in finding several things that I am willing to part with. 😀
When someone has way too much stuff a good rule is "One in - five out, to help reduce the amount of stuff down to a reasonable amount.

My TO-DOs for today...
Cat stuff, food, water, litter boxes, brushing, petting, solving all their kitty problems.
Eat more of my watermelon.
Maybe get outside and pull some excess catnip mint and grass out of my garden.
Try talking to that hoarder in my life about things and areas around here that really need to be decluttered because it makes life here so much harder and dangerous that it need be.
Take my can of bug spray around and kill all wasps, black widow spiders and scorpions I can find all the while trying not to step on any snakes.

Wishing everyone a fun, happy and productive day! 😀

Laura is at the beach for a few days so I have all animal care around here.

The weird thing is I thought, I could sleep like this, it's pretty comfortable. Then I thought, Dianne this is probably how people get worse in little bits at a time. So try and see it from a *normal* perspective and stop the decline.

Good morning 🙂
Karl, Diane, Pixgrls, Dianne & everybody else.

WAY TO GO! Karl on fixing the vacuum belt and getting to those other tasks.

Diane, wishing you a great time today. You deserve it after puppy sitting. 🙂

Pixgrls, Happy you have gotten to those long neglected obligations.
Looking forward to reading your plan when you write it.

Dianne, Baby steps and taking regular breaks is the way to go when doing the work all by yourself. 🙂

I have some catching up to do here.

Tillie, Diane, Lynn, Susan keep moving forward!

Hi Pix,

I was never able to do that for my parents or brother. I admire you. 🙂

Hi Karl, I'm Dianne with 2 n's. 🙂

Congratulations!

Actually, I did get one cleanup-related item done earlier in the day -- I fixed the vacuum cleaner. (The belt had come off, so the motor wasn't turning the brush thingy in front.) And, after my last post, I did indeed get the piles of magazines sorted; unfortunately, that's a small part of the whole. I'm running a couple loads of laundry before going to bed.