Congratulations Porter. Wishing you and Marcie much happiness.

Tillie I love it that the things dried so quickly! And that you are continually editing and assessing your drawers. I have a big gross cabinet in the kitchen that could use some TLC. Anyone have enough strength to encourage me to deal with it?

I made it through yesterday. I appreciate everyone's support. . I'm not sure if mom heard from sibling, she called me at 11 o'clock last night. I was asleep in bed. Mom said, oh did I wake you? And I said, mom it's 11. And she said, I wanted to tell you what I had for dinner. She's adorable. I bet she'd been calling all night but we'd gone to our friends for dinner.

Encouragement, cajoling, trickery, etc will be very much needed if I'm to do the kitchen cabinet. I'm sure there are mountains of things I can donate from there. I'm afraid of it.

Good evening everyone

Hi Porter 🙂
Wishing you all the happiness in the world. 🙂

Well, I cleaned the kitchen.
Sorted out & straightened the drawer where I keep my knives, rolling pin, tea infuser, nutmeg grater, nut cracker & picks, cookie press, measuring spoons, pastry blender & cheese grater.
Nothing in there that I don't use/need at least once a year.
Decided to finish laundry this evening since the sun is off the clothes line and it's now only 95 degrees out there.
By the time the second load was ready to hang, the first load was dry all but the very edges.

Congratulations porter! I'm glad you guys have found a way of life that makes you happy!

Anony, you will get the panels up when you are ready. You did the sand! Trash cans sound like a great idea.

Tatoulia, i'm Sorry thisisa hard family time for you.

Hey Y'all!

Marcie and I got married .

We were planning a bigger wedding in September.
We invited all our relatives to our house on the 4th

Last week we went and got our marriage license.
All our relatives showed up on the 4th including our reverend.
So I asked Marcie in private . We both cried a lot .
We told everyone we're going to the lake right now, they all followed. We went down to waters edge exchanged rings and vows.

And about 10 minutes later fireworks . We had swam off into the lake together . It was nearly as beautiful as when I proposed. Out of sight we skinny dipped out of sight, there was no stopping us. Most had left by the time we got back.

We don't regret the spur of the monument vows.

I'm married again !

I've hired a permanent cleaning services signs of hoarding started accumulating as we've started to slack.
We both agreed we would rather pay than argue about the house. I purposed we hire a decorator to redo everything every 5 years. Not nearly as expensive as thought it would be.

Total cost in receipts this year.
16,111.56
Next year x5 16,200
$300 a month to live clutter free without doing the cleaning either.

Yes! Anony! Working on a project takes time to mull it over and think about it!

Btw I know you thanked me on my offer but I want you to know, I offered to help out of selfishness as I enjoy your friendship, support and advice!

I swept up, and now I need to put down fresh placemat, water and food for the tiny kitty. I have showered and feel very peaceful.

~♡~♡~♡~♡~♡~♡~♡~
Tillie, i agree, sometimes we need to just be & not be busy. With everything ive been going through lately, just really being present in what is all around me & soaking that up, has been very comforting!
Tatoulia, it is fantastic the way youve handled the sibling! BRAVO!
...im kinda scared to start unloading those panels. I think im gonna wear a thick coat & my welding gloves...edges that sharp just made the the project even more difficult...im gonna do the window first...sometimes procrastination gives me more time to work out better ways of doing hard stuff....its true! 😀

Anony! I love hearing your plans for your house! I am envious of your creativity. Keep up the good work and take very good care of yourself.

I am struggling a bit today because it is sibling's birthday. I left an envelope for him at mom's and extra money for mom to buy him dinner. I don't think she's heard from him in weeks. BF sent him a card with $$.

Tillie I was able to hang my tea towels on my rack and it is so dry here, they have dried. So nice.

I'm going to hop in shower. Brownies frosted.

Hi Anonymoniker 🙂
I like your re-do/decorating plans 😀
That's the way, take control of the things you can control (((HUGS)))

Hi Tatoulia 🙂
The brownies and ice cream sound delicious! ;P

Sometimes being bored even though there are things we could be doing I believe is our mind/body/spirit telling us to just stop.
Always keeping busy is tiring and we need time to "just be".
WTG! for resisting licking the brownie bowl.
I make my icings same as you, just wing it.

I washed my sheets and they are on the line now.
Thinking I will wash the rest of the laundry tomorrow morning, cause I don't wanna do it now.
Everything outside is up to date on watering so no need to water anything today.
I do have to clean the kitchen, yes, I really have to do that, again...
98 degrees by 10:30am, going to be a scorcher today.
The sheets are probably all dry by now so I will go fetch them in. 😉

~Iced coffee clinks!~
Tatoulia, thank you for your very generous offer, but i will be fine. The choices for income in my area are limited, but there are still choices. Once i decided id find a way around working near my ex, i felt a huge relief! I have fasted a lot throughout my life & studied it, and the way i do it it works well for me! Its kinda funny how these delicious & nutritious 'weeds' are growing everywhere in my yard right now, while my garden is being invaded by birds & needing lots of water & attention, etc., for such small rewards.
Im having far too hard of a time with any things relating to my family or my past being changed or discarded right now, to even read about or think about. Im in a difficult head space with all that right now...I can see my efforts need to be only towards fixing & improving what is broken. I have a plan for painting the panels. The 'friend' who i 'fired' that was gearing up to milk me for more money, had saw horses we were gonna use, but im gonna try trash cans upside down! And i got some of that silver insulation to redo the bedroom window where everything has fallen off of the broken glass, etc. I also got a bin for my hot tub ozonator that im going to line with the silver insulation & decorate with colored glass blobs, like the panels! Im excited! Ive got some ideas of how to do this for cheap!
~♡~♡~♡~♡~♡~♡~♡~

Tillie! I'm so glad you got groceries and love hearing about what you and the cats enjoy! I baked brownies and right now I am softening some butter to make frosting. They will be served with vanilla ice cream and rainbow sprinkles. Since I have been working so intently on my physical health, I decided to forgo licking the bowl. It was tough and I'm pretty sure I should get a medal. Frosting will be a bit tougher as I will have to taste it to make sure it tastes right as I don't use a recipe and I don't measure and just wing it. The brownies are cooling now.

I did two loads of laundry this AM and I've changed my sheets. I'll need to launder my sheets tomorrow.

I'm bored, which isn't like me. There are multitudes of things I could be doing, including sweeping, reading, etc. I am doing none of these things.

Good Morning Everybody 🙂
Iced chai masala "Clink!"

Hi Subclinical 🙂
How wonderful of your Dh.
It is overwhelming when there are too many things to do.
And personal R&R time is very important to have without any nagging guilt that we should be doing something else. (((HUGS)))

Hi Tatoulia 🙂
Warms my heart that you will now be treating yourself with all the respect that you deserve. (((HUGS)))
Yes! I too have been following the news of the boys in the cave.
So, what are you baking for the dessert? ;D

Last evening I went to the grocery store.
Stocked up on things so I will not be forced to leave the house again.
The extended weather forecast is terrifying and it's all "RED FLAG" warnings as fire weather.
I had kitty litter but bought another one for Justin Case.
I had kitty cereal but bought another bag too.
Bought some more cat snax.
Also got a watermelon to share with scooter.
Was bad and bought a carton of chocolate ice cream but otherwise I have been being very good about reducing my sugar intake.
I thought that it was alright to have ice cream during the spooky hot weather.
My big orange boy kitty will be disappointed that I didn't get coffee ice cream, his favorite. ;P

I am glued to Sky News watching the rescue operations in Thailand. I'm also doing laundry and realizing I need to bake for tonight's dinner party at a friend's house. BF is bringing appetizers, I am bring dessert and they will make main course. We love them and love their kids.

Wishing everyone a stress-free day.

SubC we cross-posted! Congratulations on getting the drawer clean and ready! Excellent work!

SubC your husband is so dear. I am very touched that you have someone in your life who sees how special you are and is looking out for you. We are all rooting for you. Always.

Good work cleaning out the drawer in the secretary, Tillie. And thank you for cheering me on and getting me through this (ultimately) simple task. All items are put away and the bags and other things are neatly in the drawer.

These forks were my grandmother's and I'm looking forward to using them. They are beautiful. I don't remember having them. I know she gave them to me in 1983 but I don't remember them. I do remember being on a plane with a heavy bag filled with her sterling. I still don't know why she chose me when she had seven living grandchildren to choose from, but she did and I'm grateful. I will show my gratitude by living a good life and treating my home and myself with respect.

I'm going to finish getting the garbage together, do a small but if shredding then head into bed.

Nice time with mom today. I love her so much.

Yay for cleaning drawers!!!!!

Anony, that was my concern about fasting for a whole week - you actually not eating all week, which Tillie mentioned some of the bad parts. I am excited that you have your panels, but do be careful with them!

Tatoulia, I am also excited for your forks! That drawer must feel so good to have done.

Tillie, I am not worried about the saucer. It will turn up, or it won't and maybe someday I will get new dishes, or not.

My drawer thing for today was that while I was working in the studio, I found another plastic drawer to my stacking set. So I washed it and another frame (I know I have more frames than drawers, but I am not in a hurry to toss the extra frames jik.) i put it with the set in the basement. I thought I was going to make one very tall tower, but I am finding so many drawers I might make two.

Dh has been giving me tasks every day. Things he thinks are reasonable and I can accomplish, so that I stop being overwhelmed by the whole huge everything - if he doesn't say dishes for example, he thinks I am doing fine with the dishes and I can just leave them in the sink all day and that will be fine and I am not supposed to feel bad about the dishes, even if somebody else washes them, that is just somebody washing dishes, not a criticism of me.

I can do other things if I want to, but i'm supposed to only add things that I want to do, so adding things like laundry and adding things like "read in hammock" are equally good - whatever will make me feel good about my day, not stuff to get or avoid external feedback.

Tomorrow my tasks are to plan some food, go to the grocery store, put the groceries away and make pizza. When he opened the spice cupboard tonight (he cooked dinner) he said "I am going to give you a job for Monday. You already have enough jobs for tomorrow, but I am telling you in case you want to think about it - I need you to clean this cabinet out on Monday."

WAY TO GO!!!

So nice to finally have that dreaded drawer clean out behind you.
And now you have nice clean useable space too. (((HUGS)))

YEA! Tatoulia! WAY TO GO!!!

Those old coupons show just how long you have been avoiding this drawer. LOL 😉

WONDERFUL! that you will be using those lovely forks!
That makes me very happy.
I love using the few old pieces of silverware that I have.
It makes me feel special to eat corn flakes off a sterling silver spoon. ;P

HAPPY DANCING for you (((hug)))

Today I cleaned out & tidied the very small drawer inside my secretary desk.
Now all it holds are two old trunk keys and a small plastic box containing paper clips and assorted nibs.
While I was in the desk I also sorted out the jar containing assorted drawing pencils, my ink pen and a pair of scissors that belonged to my Great Grandmother.
I let go of some of the drawing pencils and kept all the rest of the stuff.

Drawer vacuumed and scrubbed. It was a piece of cake. I also vacuumed underneath the fridge and I wiped down the fridge. Now I'm waiting for drawer to dry so I can put bags in it. I might be able to put other things in there too. Let's see how it all works out.

Thank you!!

Tillie, your pep talk worked. I put on some pj pants and a t-shirt, a surgical mask (totally unnecessary, just being dramatic), rubber gloves and I took everything out. A few recyclable items (Tupperware tops), a few donation items, and some stuff I need to find homes for or re-think. All of the coupons that expired in 1998 and 2000 were put in recycling. I went through the recipes (first pass) and recycled the ones I'm not keeping.

I'm going to vacuum the drawer before scrubbing it. I need to finish this. And find homes for everything I think I'm keeping.

OH! I found a bunch (really an obscene amount) of sterling (not plated, sterling) dinner forks. Unbelievable. I just ordered brown rolling cloths to hold them. They are in cloths now and are in remarkable shape (some are engraved with date such as 1903). The cloths they are in are fine but the thought of how long they've been there is freaking me out so I've ordered new ones. Then I will eat with these. They are beautiful.

I will write more later. Anony I agree your health can't be exposed to ex and I agree that fasting is good for you but only intermittent fasting. I hope the comment about fasting for a week means that you'll be eating leaner because of lack of funds and not literally fasting. Let me know. I cant let you starve. If you will be, we will work it out via PayPal.

I love hearing about everyone's freedom with their new vehicles! My freedom will continue me when I get rid of mine. Shout-out to SubC!

Hi Anonymoniker 🙂

That sounds complicated about having to hear & see the EX.
Take extra caution when you deal with those sharp panels.
You can not safely fast for a week without having specially prepared supplements.
After three days your body goes into cannibal mode and begins eating your muscle tissue, including the heart. (((HUGS)))

HI Everybody 🙂
Iced tea "Clink!"

Hi CriticalMass 🙂
Good luck getting caught up on the priorities! 😀
Makes perfect sense that you would get behind on at home tasks since you have to make up some lost time now with your new wheels. (((hug)))

Hi Subclinical 🙂
Anxious for that wall to be finished so you can put up the shelves and then spend time arranging your precious dolls. (((HUG)))
Sorry about the missing saucer but it may still turn up someday. 😉

Hi Tatoulia 🙂
YEA!!! for a cool & comfortable home! 😀
So, lets talk about "That Drawer".
Maybe we need to break the clearing out down into smaller bite size bits.
Open that dreaded drawer a little.
Reach in and pull out one thing.
Quickly shut that drawer!
Decide keep, toss or donate what you just pulled out.
Then put the thing where it goes, trash, donate bag or new improved location.

Tossed and turned all last night but a little after 4:00am finally fell soundly asleep until 9:00am.
Which is bad since I needed to water this morning before the sun got too intense.
Anyways got flower/herb/roses watered and am now slow watering the trees.
It will just continue to get hotter every day this next week.
I need some groceries so I am planning on going this evening when it starts to cool off.
Once that's done I won't need to venture out in the coming heat.

~Ice Coffee with cacao clinks!~
Tillie, it sounds like you are having fun & enjoying things! (((HUG!)))
Tatoulia, i can see & hear my ex from there & it is just not worth the money i make.
SubC, fasting is very healthy. It eliminates diseased cells, etc. & cleans the system. The thing is, even if it wasnt healthy, my ex being right nearby is less healthy for me...ha ha
CM, im so glad about your new van! Im still loving my truck every time i go out. With the 2 kitties that arent getting along, cat expert Jackson Galaxy recommends making things super pleasant when they are near each other, like serving good food in the presence of each other, talking really nice to them when both are there, etc. Ive had good results doing that with mine! =^-^= ~♡~ =^-^=
I got the panels yesterday & the edges are so sharp, both me & the Home Depot guy cut our hands loading it in my truck...fun, fun~

Update: I worked on my closet, trying things on and determining what to be donated and what to consign. Consignment bag ready as is my donation bag. I'm using my Fourth of July tote bag as my donation bag, so they can use that too. It's adorable, cloth, with leather handles.

I'm going to change the filters on my AC.

Coffee clinks from my much cooler, dry with no humidity, apartment! The thunderstorms yesterday did their job. Although the dew point had dropped by walk home, it was still fairly humid and difficult. Last night I slept with windows open and today is beautiful!

I expect to get some household things done today. I need to get going on the drawer and shelf challenge! The shelf for the kitty litter has worked out very well and I really need to get cracking on the gross kitchen drawer. It will give me a place for my reusable bags and totes so I need to focus on that, as opposed to the grossness of the drawer. I need to sweep the house, too.

Good to catch up on everyone. I'll wrote more later. Anony I don't know if you ran into your ex or if you were just on edge, constantly looking over your shoulder. The on-edge has been worse for me.

I'm happy for you, CM! Tillie I'm glad you got the shelf liner. SubC, keep up the good work. Take time to breathe and enjoy a water or lemonade or iced tea. I loved hearing about everyone's jello moulds, takes me back. I was never a jello fan yet I enjoyed looking at them and enjoying the wonder as mom would flip them over and unmould them.

CM, I am glad you are enjoying your new-found freedom!

Anony, how nice that all your hard work paid off! Fasting for a week does not sound very healthy though.

The only shelf/drawer things I did yesterday were using my wire shelf to tidy up a bit in the studio and putting out the dishes and tea tray in my little cabinet. I am missing a saucer.

Also dh got me the stuff to sand the wall, but I haven't sanded it yet. The weAther is nice today, so I probably won't.

Hi everyone, drive by here - haha! I've been doing a lot of driving today as a matter of fact. Thanks for all your congratulations and well wishes re the new van. I am so blessed to have such generous friends and all they ever say when they help me is "Pay It Forward," which of course I plan to do. 🙂

My gallivanting around town has put me really behind schedule at home - yikes. Hope to catch up on that tomorrow and maybe Sunday though tomorrow is a better bet for such things.

I must feed kitties. They are having trouble getting along, and Mr. has been spraying. I'm going to suggest to my roommate that we get one of those cat pheromone diffusers.

Also must feed doggy and bunnies. Like I said, behind. Animals are not going to be happy with me. I must give them extra goodies to redeem myself.

Iced tea in a plastic cup that I got when I was out DRIVING clinks! 😀

Good Evening 🙂

Hi Subclinical 🙂
Wishing your Dd the best of luck! ;D

Hi Anonymoniker 🙂
YEA! that the under trailer did well in the rains! 😀
Good luck with all your plans (((hugs)))

Went into town early this morning to fill my three empty water bottles.
Stopped by the thrift shop and picked up some more drawer liner.
Came home and lined three drawers with the new liner.
Will sort & straighten the drawers some other day.
Not too hot today, just under 100 degrees but there is some humidity, no rain, just humidity.

~Ice coffee clinks!~
I was just out in the RV visiting with my kitty when one of those disgusting skunk rats came in! She hissed at it & then ran out. I thought theyd gotten quieter in my trailer. Ok, im declaring right now, that when i get the panels here & im painting them, im going to enact my plan to extinguish the creepy critters!

~Coffee clinks!~
CM, CONGRATULATIONS ON THE NEW VAN!!! YEA!!! 😀
And all the best to you on only putting in it what you need...ha ha...i am still struggling with that! I end up never having any conveniences & have less room in there than in my car! What generous friends you have? WOW! That is so exciting for you! I like your thinking on it so far! 😀
Ive been really struggling with so many things with my life falling apart, but im focusing on that 'hole' being filled with things that will work better for me.
The area under my trailer that i cleaned & put sand under did great in all the rain!
Im really ready to start collecting junk to take to the dump in this truck, but i need to retrieve my wheelbarrow from that earthbag job site first. The panels are in, so im going to have to figure that out, too...
The money i made over the weekend was not worth the trade off of my ex being nearby...id rather just fast for a week...
~♡~Love to you all!~♡~

Oh CM! I am so happy for the new van! I was hoping that was the surprise!

I do know about vegan jello. Also vegan marshmallows, but nobody brings them to picnics.

I didn't work on shelves or drawers again yesterday. I did go to the food bank. I won't be able to go back for the next two weeks, and Jim insisted that I take a lot of bread. Hopefully I can manage it so that it will keep and get used well.

After months of frustration, my Dd got TWO job offers last night. One of them would involve her moving a little over an hour away in the next month. She hasn't decided yet, but I think she is leaning toward that one. Exciting and scary, and would involve a big clean out of my house! - both the things she brought home from the shared house she rented last year that are now stored, and more things she would need/want for her own apartment.