| Tatoulia | Posted: 10 September 2014 - 08:16 PM |
I am busily planning my next steps for dealing with my hoard! | |
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| Tatoulia | Posted: 19 September 2014 - 06:07 AM |
Wow Dianne! Today really is a new day! Perfect ending to your story! Wow! | |
| Dianne | Posted: 19 September 2014 - 05:59 AM |
Thanks Tat and LR, for the reminder that recognizing a backslide is progress. My mind can easily get jumbled and I don't see that unless it's pointed out. Tat, I love how you say acquiring vintage china and glass makes you feel invincible and unstoppable. Those are the feelings, yes! I threw out the streamers and the ticket stubs. My grand plans of framing them were never going to get done. Like so many of the things I had planned over the years that just resulted in a growing hoard. It wasn't hard at all once the excitement was over. 🙂 I kept 2 t-shirts and hats and donated the rest to the grandkids' school for their fall festival raffle. I paid my friend for the stuff she bought for me and donated those as well. LR, I'm sorry you have another funeral. Especially so soon after the one for your beloved relative. Your growing gratitude list will keep your spirits up. Today I am playing catch-up again. Neglecting one day seems to result in triple the work. Not just the physical part but the mental part of get right back on it or that little clutter monster will ooze everywhere again. Have a great day everyone! | |
| LR2014 | Posted: 18 September 2014 - 01:14 PM |
I agree with Tatoulia, Dianne . . . I think that recognizing an old pattern is progress in and of itself! (Glad you had a fun celebration!) This new day started very early. Mentioned some morning tasks on a different thread. Some of my plans for the rest of this new day: Unload some things from my vehicle, spend at least 15 minutes looking for things that are out of place and put them back into their homes, run the dishwasher, and get a bill or two paid. I also plan to add to my gratitude list. Tonight, I have another (yes, another) funeral to attend, this one for a former coworker. Have a happy new day. Hugs. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 18 September 2014 - 07:17 AM |
Thanks for your post, Dianne. I can relate to the frenzy of buying it all. I get that way in antique stores or thrift shops. Something about vintage china and glass makes me feel invincible and unstoppable. It is good that you were able to identify the free - for-all that you found yourself in! Today is a new day, and I think your ability to recognize the back- slide is the mark of true progress. (The streamers, though, might have to be reconsidered-maybe make a deal with yourself that if you don't frame them with the ticket stubs within X days you'll toss?) Today is a new day and I have another busy day of meetings, meetings, meetings. Taking tomorrow off (I have some vacation days to use up) and taking my mother to a museum. I'll write more about that soon. | |
| Dianne | Posted: 17 September 2014 - 09:12 AM |
Last night I had a backslide and didn't care too much. Although we live outside D.C. and love our Redskins and Washington Nationals we are hardcore Baltimore fans. Most of our sports time is spent at Camden Yards or Ravens stadium. Last night we were at the Yards expecting to win the American League East Division and clinch it we did! It was pandemonium! We were covered with orange and white streamers and people were draping them around their necks. I shoved handfuls inside my sweatshirt while my little recovery hoarder voice said, Dianne, this is paper trash, are you going to keep it until you die? My hoarder voice screamed I want it! I can decorate with it! I can frame it with the tickets! It's our first division championship win in 17 years! And even bigger it's the first time the Orioles have clinched on home turf in 45 years!!! Yes I want the trash! Then came the gear which went on sale immediately. I got 8 champion league t-shirts and 4 baseball caps. In the meantime we heard the Nats won the National League East in Atlanta. Double score! I had arranged with a friend that if the Nats won she should grab me 8 shirts and 4 hats wherever they went on sale. Then we plan to get together and spread out our loot like kids with Halloween candy and do some trading. Yeah, this morning the guilt is a little more prickly. The adrenaline rush is gone. And now I have to deal with the hard arguing feeling of do I save it or give it to another crazy baseball fan. It feels like a major pig-out while on a diet. But Today is a New Day and I will get right back on the recovery wagon. I'll make a decision by the end of the day. In the meantime I won't put myself down about it. There is a lot that needs to be done today ~ doctor appointment, making a grandkid pickup and switch while everybody juggles schedules, the regular maintenance, and a nighttime trip to the ocean and work all day tomorrow to get ready for family members coming in for the weekend. Tat, thank you. I LOVE having this thread reminder every morning that mistakes are in the past and today is fresh, new and full of possibilities! | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 15 September 2014 - 08:30 PM |
Thank you all for your lovely posts. We are all trying so hard, and it's amazing how inspirational our friends on this site are. Don't worry, Grace, we are here for you. We can do this. Seriously, I thank you all for your lovely, touching, painful, candid posts. I am tearing up. We will get through this. | |
| Grace | Posted: 15 September 2014 - 08:20 PM |
Hey, Where is everyone going? I just found you . Please don't go away. You are all important and have much to offer. The first and only meeting I have ever attended got a little out of hand but we can still be here for each other right? I can tell this is a strong group of people all doing their very best to help themselves and others. We all have some good and bad days.. Mine have been pretty horrible as a matter of fact but I am not giving up on any one.. I didnt even give up on my husband, he gave up on me. Stay strong. You guys are sincerely special people. | |
| diane | Posted: 15 September 2014 - 05:28 PM |
Thanks Dianne and Tat, I do feel so accepted by you both today and it allows me to know it is safe to post on here. | |
| Dianne | Posted: 15 September 2014 - 04:30 PM |
Last week I made my mistake (as I often do), made a heartfelt apology and decided to let it go. I was determined to stay neutral and stick to hoarding recovery from then on. But honestly, I still feel like shit. Every day. I am so happy that Diane has been brave enough to stay. Diane, you have grown in leaps and bounds for over a year and a half. I have always admired your strength in everything but mostly in getting knocked down, wiping yourself off and getting back up. Whether it's frozen pipes or negativity in people you always keep pushing thru. We may not always have agreed but you inspire me greatly. You are foundational here and I consider you a good friend. I miss Tillie too. We've disagreed too but I still have great respect and admiration for her and consider her a good friend as well. I understand her need to pull back for as long as she needs. But when she does come back (and that's a WHEN not an IF) I will be delighted to see her. She is foundational as well. I'd like to add that Tat has inspired me to be more personal about this. Like I said I was going to put it behind me and not talk about it anymore. But Tat's unflagging warmth and kindness has sparked in me that need to say again I'm sorry, I miss my friends and I want them back here soon! peace and love ~~ | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 15 September 2014 - 02:30 PM |
Diane, you are needed and loved, every bit as much as Tillie. Tillie is extremely important. I have to believe that she'll be back. And in the meantime we will make her proud by declaring that today is a new day and by applying her thoughtfulness, practicality and humor to our daily lives. I need each and every one of you. And it's okay if any of us needs to take a break. Whoever comes or goes will be treated warmly. Please treat yourself fairly, Diane. You need to judge yourself by your good deeds. I think of you in that context--please try to do the same for yourself. | |
| diane | Posted: 15 September 2014 - 02:00 PM |
TODAY IS A NEW DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
| diane | Posted: 15 September 2014 - 01:51 PM |
Good day. I have been out moving firewood closer to house for a few hours this morning, until just now. Still in the habit of reading the board when I take a break, and what fun it is today!!!!!! Tat would you believe I did the same thing with a sturdy box yesterday,first instinct is to use it, then for practice I squashed it like a bug. Speaking of bugs, more bugs having a shit in on only a small section of fire wood today. I felt lucky to have mostly bug free wood to move. It will be so much easier to have it closer to house this year, especially if it snows a lot and below zero again this year. Tat, after your comments last night, I had the courage to face a weeks worth of dishes, done and put away, thanks so much for being kind to me, especially reminding me we all have a "moment" once in awhile. If we were perfect, we would not be on here, that is for sure. I also see my growth to admit when I am wrong, and take steps to change behavior. | |
| Dianne | Posted: 15 September 2014 - 11:13 AM |
Today is a new day! It started with a good out loud laugh when I read Tat's shit-in typo. And again when I read how Diane is using it to bring humor into every area! Today I need to pick up a dog from the vet and get a prescription for myself. My German Shepherd is ready for a cart (doggie wheelchair) so I need to set up a time for him to be measured. I also need to get clean linens, blankets and towels out of storage and packed to take to the beach. Have a great day everybody! | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 15 September 2014 - 08:20 AM |
Today is a new day and I going to mop my kitchen floor, work and then meet a friend for dinner. Oh, and I haven't made the turkey tetrazzini so I'll get that done! Sounds like you have some good plans, there LR! Good on following Diane 'a good advice to throw things out for practice! | |
| LR2014 | Posted: 15 September 2014 - 07:07 AM |
LOL, diane and Tat! I guess I need better glasses, because I missed that part when I saw Tat's post yesterday. After reading how you are applying the idea to your tasks, diane, I'm going to be thinking about it and laughing all day long. BTW, diane, as I waffled a bit yesterday about throwing away a "very sturdy box" that I had emptied (decluttered) on Saturday, I once again remembered your comments about sometimes throwing away something "just for practice." Out it went! (Thanks. Another box bites the dust!) Today is a new day. In addition to doing a lot of laughing, some of my plans are as follows. I plan to get laundry dried and put away, attend a gathering with some friends at lunchtime today, and get some more old papers ready to be either trashed or shredded. And (inspired by this conversation), I plan to buy a new toilet brush and make good use of it. Hugs! | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 14 September 2014 - 09:41 PM |
Ps the part about the dishes having a shit in is precious. I cannot stop laughing. Oh boy. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 14 September 2014 - 09:32 PM |
Oh that's so funny! I too am going to use it. YOU ARE WELCOME IN THIS SITE. YOU ARE NEEDED ON THIS SITE. DONT BELIEVE ANYONE WHO TELLS YOU DIFFERENTLY! You had a ''moment". That's all. And there isn't a person alive, hoarder or otherwise, that hasnt had a moment. So please, don't believe that. Plus, who am I going to have a shit-in with if not you? Much love and don't go. Re read some posts and see how happy we are when you post. See how tired we get from reading your accomplishments. Today is a new day! For all of us! | |
| diane | Posted: 14 September 2014 - 08:50 PM |
Tat, I laughed out loud and continued to smile for the rest of the day when it crossed my mind. Like when I was stacking the oldest firewood closer to house and there were bugs, oh they are having a shit in. When I attempted to start a pile of dishes, I smiled and said do not disturb, dishes are having a shit in. You get the picture. Since last Sunday, rumor has it new people said I am not welcome on this site anymore, I decided today they were having a shit in too. Your typo put everything into perspective, with humor, thanks Tat. Without my daily posting, creeping crud has tried to take over my life again. Thanks to your kindness I know I can say what is on my mind. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 14 September 2014 - 06:56 PM |
Oh my goodness. A shit-in. How embarrassing! I hope you laughed, Diane. I am horrified. Should have said Shut-In but before I cleaned that oersin's house, shit-in was a much more accurate description! Hope you are well, dear Diane!!! | |
| diane | Posted: 14 September 2014 - 04:08 PM |
and picked up food to cook for a shit-in. New item--turkey tetrazzini Gee I can imagine how it will turn out, what is a shit in? Sounds like a negative group of people who BS (kidding) | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 14 September 2014 - 01:44 PM |
Thanks for the smile, LR. My plans changed for the day so I was able to create a small bag of book donations (pain) and worked on bedroom closet. Just went gticery shopping for myself only and picked up food to cook for a shit-in. New item--turkey tetrazzini. I'll let you know how it turns out! So, I've gotten two swipes at the a Today is a New Day and I'm loving it! | |
| LR2014 | Posted: 14 September 2014 - 01:02 PM |
What am I doing today? Whatever it is, I'll be doing it with a decent level of energy. I feel much more rested than yesterday! I am keeping my official goals small for today. One of my main plans is to spend at least 30 minutes going around looking for things that I have left out of place (yes, some of my "stuff" does actually have a place) and then putting them back into place before I lose them! Hugs to all. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 14 September 2014 - 10:36 AM |
Beautiful day here too--cool and sunny! Have vacuumed my library including the couch, have completed two loads of laundry and then heading out to help a disabled person with grocery shopping. Hope to enjoy my new day by spending time with my sweetheart (hoping up get to a museum) and finishing my bathroom! Let us all feel good about ourselves today. | |
| Dianne | Posted: 14 September 2014 - 10:13 AM |
Today is a new day! The sky is blue with some mare's tails clouds and the temps are cool. Always lifts my spirits. Today is maintaining and some extra exercise with the dogs. Tonight we have our last game at Camden Yards against the Yankees for the season. Even the most die-hard O's fans are honoring Derek Jeter's last game here. Should be a great day. I hope yours will be too! | |
| Dianne | Posted: 13 September 2014 - 06:32 PM |
I'm very happy to see you Diane! You're needed here. As is Tillie. Today is a new day! It felt like 2 days with a.m. rain and some p.m. sun. I scrubbed out litter boxes and washed dog crates. Made some soup and looking forward to an earlier bedtime. | |
| diane | Posted: 13 September 2014 - 02:10 PM |
Yeah Tat, so happy you are accepting yourself, takes a lot of energy to be mean to yourself, much better to use energy to clean bathroom! Always enjoy your thought process. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 13 September 2014 - 09:40 AM |
Today I going to clean my bathroom. I am not going to focus on how dirty I've let it get and I'm not going to beat myself up. Today is a new day and I'm going to be proud of my accomplishments. | |
| Dianne | Posted: 12 September 2014 - 08:47 AM |
Today is a new day ~ fresh and clean, clear and light! I need to spend a little time readjusting my schedule. Having to do things outside the house means things slide around here. The Bare Bones Basics list is in place. I need to firm up outside work and appointments for the rest of the month and balance maintenance accordingly. My Daily Project for today is to pay bills (scheduled for twice a month) and file or toss paper clutter which has grown on my desk. Have a great day everyone! | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 12 September 2014 - 06:35 AM |
I am leaving for work soon. Going to deal with clutter creep when I get home tonight! Living room clutter creep. Not sure where it came from but today is a new day so I will not beat myself up. | |
| Dianne | Posted: 11 September 2014 - 04:39 PM |
Ah Tat, what a wonderful new thread, I SO needed this today!! Yesterday morning I headed to the beach and was so distressed with what I found; broken furniture, missing things, etc. The people who were supposed to be managing and cleaning didn't do a very good job. I just got back after another very mixed up day with many changes of plans for the coming week. Too much to complain about. I feel very vulnerable without my hoard here. Stress feels multiplied when I can't be surrounded by my walls of protection. A few chores to be done, bedtime and yes, tomorrow I'll get up and say ~~ TODAY IS A NEW DAY 🙂 | |