| Too much to handle | Posted: 24 July 2017 - 02:46 PM |
I finally got my eyes opened by seeing a friends place who started piling up huge containers etc. in his yard. Seeing his mess with items I don't care about, opened my eyes to what it looks like in our house to our friends (the few, that are allowed to enter)..... if you know what I mean. Since that time I want to get rid of all my stuff ASAP, but I am so overwhelmed by looking around. Every area is packed, from garage, to wood shed, to yard and naturally the house. My issue though is, that I spent a fortune on all those things I acquired. Over $30,000 in beads, b/c I had the idea I want to make jewelry - what never happened. Now I'm sitting here with this value of beads and have no clue how I can get some of my monies worth back. The same goes for clothing. Bought a lot on sale, thinking I can re-sell for profit since I don't have a high income. That goes also for collectibles. I started collecting anything and everything. Now, about 3 weeks ago, I realized what is going on and I want the stuff gone, BUT I cannot part without getting some $$ back out of it. Posted a view items on Offer up and craigslist and sold some. But some stuff doesn't go, especially the antiques which are worth a lot more, then what people wanna pay. Main thing is, I DON'T KNOW WHY I'M DOING WHAT I'M DOING... I want to get out of this vicious circle and not buy any crap at all anymore, but how??? Been to several counselors, which ask me why I'm buying all the stuff. Heck if I'd know and know how to stop it, I wouldn't need to go see a counselor. | |
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| Subclinical | Posted: 25 July 2017 - 05:13 AM |
Hi too much to handle, Yes, you can get rid of it without getting money back. The money is already spent. gone. Paying to get rid of stuff in the hope of getting a return is like continuing to gamble because you need to cut your losses. If your weight was threatening your health, would you decide you had to stay overweight because you spent so much money on food? Your stuff is threatening your quality of life. By all means sell some of it if you can, but some of it probably needs to be given away or even thrown out. If you pay taxes you can donate some for tax credit. You may be able to donate some to help causes that matter to you. What you can do to help with your economics is not buy anything else unless absolutely essential. This will make sure you aren't just bringing in with one hand while discarding with the other. Need a gift? Can you make one with some of your beads? Pass on an item that would be valued by the recipient? Can you use any of your stuff to barter for things you do need? You may not be able to do this quickly (I've been digging out for almost ten years and now live in a house that is mostly just "very full") but you can do it. The ten years might sound overwhelming, but there successes along the way - daily victories of being able to find something, the joy of inviting a friend into a clean living room, the ability to cook dinner and eat at the table without a majjor relocation drill.... The key is to start anywhere and just keep going. | |
| Anonymoniker | Posted: 24 July 2017 - 08:02 PM |
Hi, there? | |