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New here and starting to clean up. Help and advice needed.
Dallas
Posted: 24 October 2011 - 03:55 PM
 

Background: I'm 29, married with a 2 year old daughter. I have always kept everything, I mean everything. My Mom taught me that when I was little. We've also had several close relatives die and I've inherited some of their stuff. I know I assign everything a value. This drives my husband nuts. I list on ebay regularly and have taken a couple of loads to goodwill in the last month. So I'm not putting it in a new pile somewhere else for long.

I'm fed up. I'm tired of stuff everywhere. It was much worse years ago. You couldn't walk through much of our house. Now it cleaner, and the mess is mostly confined to the last room we need to remodel called "The Tote Room." There's no food or anything like that in there, just "keepsakes" and random crap.

The last week I've thrown away most of the Christmas cards I've kept, and nearly all receipts unless they were for a large purchase or for tax stuff.

I'm starting to go through more of it, and have some questions:

-Old toys from my childhood. How many should be kept? I don't think DD will play with them, should I toss or try to sell.
-Ceramics. My Dad's friend made them for me when I was a kid. I'm not attached to any of them. They fill a tote. Should I toss?
-Fabric. I used to sew a lot before DD was born and now I don't have time. I want to keep some of this but I have 4-5 totes. Some of the fabric was my grandmother's. What should be kept? I know it needs pared down.
-Books. If I haven't read it in a year, should it be tossed.
-Clothes. Should I go by the if it hasn't been worn in 1 year rule?
-Dead family member's stuff. A lot of it is just sitting collecting dust. Should I photograph and get rid
-Christmas decorations. I have 3-4 totes. Is that a normal amount or should I sell some?

Thanks

 

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Posted: 04 November 2011 - 01:06 PM
 

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WE CAN HELP-THE BILL CUNNINGHAM SHOW
Posted: 04 November 2011 - 01:05 PM
 

HI MY NAME IS NAZIA I AM AN ASSOCIATE PRODUCER WITH THE BILL CUNNINGHAM SHOW IN NYC AND I WOULD LOVE TO TALK TO YOU. WE ARE HAVING A SHOW ABOUT CHILDREN/FAMILY MEMBERS OF HOARDERS AND WE ARE LOOKING FOR PEOPLE WHO KNOW THEIR HOARDING FAMILY MEMBER NEEDS HELP. IF YOU CAN PLEASE CALL ME MY NUMBER IS BELOW AS WELL AS MY EMAIL ADDRESS.

WE ARE LOOKING TO HELP AND WILL OFFER AFTER CARE. WE ALSO KNOW THAT BEING EMBARESSED IS SOMETHING THAT MOST PEOPLE FACE BEING A HOARDER IF YOU ARE WE CAN ALWAYS PROTECT YOUR APPEARANCE AND NAME.

WE PAY FOR TRAVEL, PLANE TICKETS, MEALS, HOTEL ROOMS, & HAVE A GREAT HAIR AND MAKEUP TEAM THAT WILL WORK WITH YOU.

CALL: 212 419 7447
EMAIL: NDEFRANK@BILLCUNNINGHAMSHOW.COM

 
NJDESPRES
Posted: 01 November 2011 - 06:24 PM
 

I am so proud of you! You are in such a great place! I can't see your post to respond to specific questions, but will try my best to remember them. If you google my name, you should find my blog which will have a lot of info pertaining to letting go.
You should never keep things out of guilt. i.e. They once belonged to someone else or were a gift from so and so. If it makes you feel better, take a picture or keep a piece or one symbolic piece of a collection. You should surround yourself with only things that you really need, love or that truly fill you with happiness.
Consider how long it will take you to catch up on your reading. If you haven't made the time to read all those books yet, chances are you never will. If time frees, you can always borrow from the library, a friend or grab one at a tag sale for twenty-five cents!
Clothing that doesn't fit, is in ill repair and that isn't worn within the year should be purged. This reduces the amount of laundry that tends to accumulate as well.
You should only keep the decorations that you actually use. If you don't use all four bins, purge the excess.
Don't save things in case you need them, get things when you need them. If you aren't going to use your sewing supplies anytime soon, get rid of them. If and/or when you decide to take up sewing again, you can obtain all the supplies you need at that time.
Keep up the good work!

 
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