I AM FEELING DISCOURAGED AND OVERWHELMED BY MY CLUTTER.

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I am feeling discouraged and overwhelmed by my clutter.
Abbey
Posted: 10 May 2014 - 01:31 PM
 

I am feeling discouraged about the clutter in my home. I feel overwhelmed and defeated today. I don't feel like I can ask for help because I am embarrassed and ashamed.
And there is a part of me that feels I do not deserve help because I created this mess and it is mine to clean up.

 

Replies (6)

Barb
Posted: 20 May 2014 - 05:02 PM
 

To MsNikki,
Come join our discussion group tonight starting at 6 Pacific time and 9 Eastern. Just click on the Online Support Group box at the right and enter any user name you want to use in the Guest box. We each take a turn talking about our struggles, progress, etc. We try to encourage each other, offer suggestions that are working for us and celebrate each other's victories. You can just observe or take turn sharing as you are ready. If you miss this post, we will be meeting again on Sunday night at 5 p.m. Pacific.

 
MzNikki
Posted: 20 May 2014 - 02:44 PM
 

I am feeling the same way afraid to let people in my area bc Im embarrassed but to afraid and embarrassed to ask for help. But this hoarding and clutter has made me so depressed .

 
diane
Posted: 13 May 2014 - 08:57 PM
 

See the red "Online Support Button" under message boards? Just click on it Abbey

 
Abbey
Posted: 13 May 2014 - 08:40 PM
 

Hello Dianne and Vi0l3t,
Thanks so much to both of you for your replies.
It is a comfort to know that I am not alone in my clutter
dis-ease.
I just logged back into tonight and wishI would have logged in earlier so I could have ask how to call into the Tues night call.
Will one of you please tell me how to call into the meetings?
Thanks again,
Abbey

 
Vi0l3t
Posted: 10 May 2014 - 10:36 PM
 

Hullo again, Abbey. the other night you came onto chat and asked me to tell you about the sunday and Tuesday night chat sessions, unfortunately I'd gone AFK and didn't see chat again until you'd already logged out.
Sundays and TUesdays are a good opportunity to talk for 15 minutes in turn about what is bothering you and to say whatever you need to say. A lot of us use it as a check in on our week and our struggles. The great thing about Sunday chat sessions is that not only do you get to talk to fellow hoarders, but also to friends and family of hoarders who also need help and support. It offers a unique perspective on the problems we're facing together that may help you see through the fog of the everyday.
Tuesdays are a hoarders only gathering and is used in much the same way, again everyone gets 15 minutes to say what they need to say. After either session once everyone has had their 15 minute turn we talk about everything else, or if you need more time you can have it then. Everyone has different comfort levels and so you may or may not be allowed to discuss other people's problems with them during their 15 minute turn.
I'm so very glad you came back and I hope to see you tomorrow night, or maybe in the chat some other time. Finding this group has helped me immensely and I hope it can do the same for you 🙂

 
Dianne
Posted: 10 May 2014 - 05:48 PM
 

Hi Abbey, welcome!

We've all been in the same place and still are on some days. Read some of the threads. You'll see you're not alone and how others have started with baby steps. It tool us a long time to get this bad and it will take us time to get out, especially if we don't want help. I resist help and have come to accept that my mess will take years and may never be done. But trying makes me feel better.

 
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