Hello Ralph 🙂

So very sorry to hear how it has gotten so much
worse for you.

At the top of the page are links to counselors/therapists.
"National Resources"
They are rumored to specialize in hoarding situations.
Maybe in the link "Help For Families?"
Perhaps even call Steri-Clean and ask them what's available in your area?

Do you have an attorney?
You should have one to help protect you from the lies and possible other dirty antics.
Someone to document the situation from your perspective.

I honestly do understand how you have been besmirched, manipulated, abused and accused of crimes.
I have been too, he even killed my cat.

This message board is not just for the people who hoard or squalor, it's a place for us too.

Have you ever visited the
Children Of Hoarders" website?
Most all of these now adults have been to therapy of some sort to help get over their trauma.
They may also have advice to help you and your kids.

My most sincere on the passing of your Father (((HUG)))

Best wishes (((HUG)))
You can come here any time for tea and sympathy.