| gaby | Posted: 12 October 2012 - 12:27 AM |
i had the toughist time parting with my momthers thigs as well s my own. i was brought up in a hording home and feel thi is the harest thing to do . my mom passed away over a year ago bu tis still fresh in my mind. she always said i may not be able to replace this stuff one it is not made any more she would keep things that did not even work any more. well be twen the two of us i have a 2850 sq house full of everthing from funiture to bedding clothes and god knows wht in most oparts of the house. my cusin madea suggestion to me to make a list of things i just cn not live with out. put those things in one room. close the door. put a sign on it do not add aything else to this room. in the rest of the house i started i the kitchen i found five mixers kitchen chefs i put one all to gether in a box with all the parts then took the rest out side put a free sign on it that they had to take the entire box. it went to a donation plaace the next day i found the donation people going though it picking only what they wanted i stopped them in their tracks and asked if they could read. so much for the good will foudation. i knew most all the parts to the other mechines were there some where. later that dy someone came to the house and took everthing the following week i seen many of the ings in a yard sale down the street. funny hting was it is probly where most of it came from. so number one i made a list of my have to list for the day to come one i am not allowed to go to yard dales any more. this way i do not buy stuff i do not really need. other things i found places to donate too like i had three couches in good condition at he time. my locl church was doing a give away for the homeles people placed in aptments that had nothing. our town created a new place for homless people to live. and not on the streets. i would hve found building in town and filled it up and got rid of things that way but money is not esy to come by. let anlone i scared i still take things home again. by cutting out the one thig i loved to do was shop i keep a list of things in my purse of needed items. and do not impulse buy if it is not on the list i do not buy it the word SALE i cover my eyes quickly a horders night mare the four letter word SALE or FREE. i am working on eliminating those two word from my vocabulry like making them a cus word to my self. i hate to use profanity words so i put these words in the trash as well. so far i am doing good another topic to loose is when friends tell me i am getting rid of this do you want it the answer is NO thank you. it is a shock to those that knew me before or my mother. people used to dump stuff off at our house if they could not find the dump or sell it. i cught a person with a pick up load of things tryng to dump them in my yard. i had to call the police on them it broke my heart to have to be so mean but i ws not wanting yard sale in my yard my mom used to allow people to do this also. then if things did not sel she would haul them into the house, another excuse was somebody will need it some day. the hardest thing is getting rid of my familly things they dump on me after a death. after so much hoarding i just had to give it up some how. my whole personality is changed to anger i am no longer the nice lady down the street. i am still stuggling on this point to the extreem i can not evven get rid of all the urns full of ashes. it is a hard thing to let go letting go nd saying NO to my self or others is so hard to do. | |
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| Tillie | Posted: 15 October 2012 - 09:48 AM |
Gaby, Keep up the good fight! Just throwing out boxes that you packed years ago and never opened again is a great plan. Go ahead and be as ornery as you need to be to get what you need in life. Best wishes, Tillie 😀 | |
| gaby | Posted: 15 October 2012 - 02:45 AM |
cory cory i felt this hit him in the face tonight as all the chores were done as i keep book in this houe and track of all money coming in and out of the house this makes his gas budget short. adding to the list at front door also to his friends 5 buck in advance for taxi service as it is my car that normaly is used. with addition to shopping days are monday& wensday and fridays. or use the bike on the porch last big sign i made was yullee my serice do is not a pet do not push me! well in spending most of the day printing and taping signs up i am in hopes all these loaffers will get the idea i am not the nice lady any more i been asked why the change lol i tell them just look around people and figure it out. | |
| gaby | Posted: 15 October 2012 - 02:29 AM |
sorry to have missed the group last night i took couple pain pill after dinner and was out for a while.thank yo cory for the kind word althouh imy sone is 39 i do think he cn clean him self this wek he been workin on cleaning up some of the yard a friend of his has been helping him i thouht making dinner was a help to pay the kid for his hard day. tomarrow i am going to o buy this bi choc cake for the kid i found out he loves choc. items. so what can choc cost lol. my son is a bit of a tome sawyor type i know this sounds strange but some how he talked the other guy to do most of the work. the young man made a few comments to my on about my cooking i know the young man is homeless. o one good meal is better than nothing i think. the secence to day looked so much like a huck finn story as the two of them worked i continued to work on the house. and made another large meal for them. i felt ood about being able to use my kitchen again the way it should be done. now this week i thinking to work on the living space i am still not ready to look up stairs yet.the livin room is a tuffy to work on it is so full of boxes that i packed over a year ago most of which i know is my moms stuff i had to put it in my mnd she is one now i can make a choie an get it all gone i already went through it all once before when i packed it up i am not wanting to even do it again maybe beter to just get rid of it i think never opening the boxes jsut take them out to the dump. all the important paers are gone it is jusst more stuff. my mom lived with me for the past few years and i already have most of what is in thre no need to look i keep telling my self. afframations are working for me at this time. i been working on my hording for a long time i think being here has given me a sounding board for sure. a venting place. i am in hopes i cn keep the city out of here as long as i can. with the out side looking a bit beter just maybe they stay away. my on and i talked about it. i talked not as his mom but person to person. now he still has his zoo up stairs. i cn here them smell them etc. today he found a litter of kittens i topped him t the fence and told him to put them down and i called shelter to come get them they are so tiny. moma no where to be seen i do not kno if they were dropped of or abandoned by some one as it has been in the past. my on and i talked it over and i still had to say no. but tonight i think he has gotten ove the shock i did not even by dog food today as it not on my list. my animls are not going hunry by any means i bought food last week. i keepp it in my room as not letting my son get to it for his zoo. and no i would not refuse his animals if nothing was there i just told my son if he needs to buy food he knows where to go for it. we talked about the fact if he can not feed them then he should find them homes som place not here. i think he is geting a picture of the hard ships and the cost . as i refused to use my money to feed them i spent it on our own food. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 14 October 2012 - 11:37 AM |
Hi Gaby 😀 You did a fantatic job there! Doing at least one task a day will really make a difference in your home. Keep up the good work! Hope to see you in "chat" tonight. | |
| Cory Chalmers | Posted: 14 October 2012 - 02:03 AM |
Gaby, Keep it up Gaby. We are very happy to have found you and you really seem to be enjoying the outlet this message board provides you. Have a great Sunday and hope to see you on the Sunday night online support group! | |
| gaby | Posted: 13 October 2012 - 11:57 PM |
thank you tillie | |
| Tillie | Posted: 12 October 2012 - 11:12 AM |
Hi Gaby, You are doing a great job! It is better to be thought of as mean than to have people dumping truck loads of stuff in your yard. Wishing you all the best. Sincerely, Tillie 🙂 | |