| Greta | Posted: 24 June 2015 - 03:22 PM |
Drowning about sums it up have to clean parents house the mortgage company will give my nephew the money to buy the house otherwise no loan Mom and Dad move out of there last year my father is physically unable to help and the fact he now is in a nursing home Mom is in new home. We are cleaning the house sadly without help from my mom who unfortunately thinks the mortgage company should NEVER have this as condition because don't they understand her husband is in a nursing home. No matter what I do I get grief for most everyone in my family except my father. Yesterday I took stuff down to my moms( clothes and some brick a brack I knew she would want put in her shed as she asked) sis inl law and brother were mad at me they thought if she couldn't do it herself it should go to goodwill on Friday. Husband was annoyed because there was something a set aside when we're cleaning that wanted and when I came the next day was gone sis in law they out it something my children had made for them. The big picture is house has to sell like now because my mom can't afford 2 places and my dad needs to get on medicaid for his ltc and 95% of everything is on me all I want is for my parent to have what they need the way things have to happen is not ideal by any means for anyone but my mom won't think about anything else but her stuff most day I feel that if her stuff I were about to fall off a cliff she would push me over to save her stuff the stuff she does want is just stuff never a mention of pictures of family or thing we given her like the poem I did for her for Mother's Day on year and framed she was more worried about a pair of shoes the were in bad shape because she can't replace them she told why are worried about that poem the shoe are not replaceable to me that's like putting a knife in my heart it makes me think she doesn't love me only her stuff when I am trying to make sure she has the money she to live and make sure she is taken care of and my dad has the same I need advice I am overwhelmed and alway on the verge of tears | |
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| Roxie | Posted: 05 July 2015 - 01:51 PM |
Greta, come post on the Daily board to get more responses. And welcome, by the way. Also, on Sunday and Tuesday nights there is an online support group meeting here (click on link to the right). You are dealing with a serious hoarder and must expect the irrational. Why is no one else helping you clear or clean the house? Under National Resources (above) you can find perhaps some resources. The paid-for cleaners typically run over $2000 for an average home, sometimes much more. If your bro wants to buy the house, why not get him to pay for the clearing out? Anyway, welcome. | |
| Greta | Posted: 02 July 2015 - 07:04 AM |
Jersey girl, Thank you reading this it means a lot . I do feel like I am losing control of my life and balancing everything. | |
| JerseyGirl | Posted: 01 July 2015 - 11:30 PM |
Greta, I just realized that this was your first post. Your dad is very lucky to have you help him. Plus it must be difficult doing all this for your parents and balancing a relationship with your own family. Like my mom, they need help for their hoarding behavior. My mother will dig through my garbage to keep anything which she deems valuable, yet has destroyed stuff I've given to her because she doesn't know how to take care of things. Unfortunately the hoarding behavior is in control. I know my mother loves me and would do anything for me, but she will not do anything to help herself. Life would be so much easier without the hoarding in the way, wouldn't it? | |