| Pia | Posted: 16 October 2019 - 10:58 PM |
Is what I hoard normal? What objects have been the hardest to get rid of? How do I know what I need to get rid of, or what is "important" enough to keep? | |
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| Tillie | Posted: 12 April 2020 - 08:09 PM |
Hello Gary WAY TO GO! for making the room into a nice clean bedroom! No, it is not easy. It is an ongoing struggle to change. Here we talk about things kept for "just in case". Accumulating and storing things for someone else who might want it someday is very common. Well, that is what the stores do. Another way to look at is financially. How much time is spent having to deal with the extra items? The 20 20 rule... Keep up this great progress you have made in changing the way you look at things. A very good book is "Buried In Treasures". | |
| Gary | Posted: 12 April 2020 - 06:20 PM |
I used to save the caps from jars, the plastic caps from mixed nuts and Pringles, plastic twist ties, rubber bands, plastic bags, paper bags, holiday and gift cards, pens, pencils, staples, basically anything that might be used in the future by someone. I had a spare bedroom that became a storage room for my stuff and all of my books (retired high school English teacher) and magazines and boxes of folders with class sets of mimeo copies (later xerox copies). When my girlfriend and her two kids moved in that room was supposed to be used by one of the kids, but I was paralyzed by all the stuff (and memories of career) and course work from undergrad years and graduate work. It took one year to dig out. I had to find a home for the books. It took another year after digging out (including getting storage space) to pull up the rug (at least 30 years old) and paint the room, add new lighting, blinds, and new flooring. I couldn't do it alone. My partner isn't a hoarder and she wasn't attached to my stuff. I did offer periodic resistance, which is why it took two years to turn the room into another bedroom. I still find myself trying to squirrel away stuff that I don't need. It's an ongoing struggle with myself. | |
| Farmgirl | Posted: 04 November 2019 - 10:28 AM |
The sentimental things are hardest to get rid of, I'm afraid I'll forget that person or that special time. I'm working really hard to wrap my mind around the fact that if I throw the item away it doesn't mean I don't love that person, or that it makes that event any less special or memorable. I also ask myself if that person would want me to keep that item forever collecting dust, probably NOT! This is hard for me & the first time I've admitted this to myself. I have grounded myself recently from yard sailing, thrift store shopping & reading store ads. I'm only allowed to donate or throw away stuff until I get it under control. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 17 October 2019 - 10:39 AM |
Hello 🙂 The hardest things to let go of are most always sentimental items. A wonderful book to help you is This book can help you answer your questions about what is important to keep and what you should let go of to improve your home situation. As for what is "normal" to keep... | |